ndn country would never
most of the rest of the entire world would never
global south would never so hard they will fight people
spinster is not even a real term
thru the epoch of time the human species has been on this planet
it is a very recent western cultural construction used mostly to threaten & coerce women into making choices that dont feel right
what am i retiring from?
playing that role
it is no fun
spinster math
is not auntie math
is not uncle math
is not mom math
is not dad math
is not sister math
is not brother math
is not irish grandma math
is not german grandpa math
is not mohawk math
is not mohawk grandparent math
& so
glad
we
have
sensible
mathematicians
too
out
here
logical reasons?
being a mother
having children rely on you
someone who drinks & has guns in the house?
fair point & point taken
& it is a different thing when people are parents
am i a mother at the moment
dissenting sure
hating that friend, fine
me caring about that, absolutely
all normal things
preventing me by force? insisting i dont? thats not a partner that's a jailor then
why doesnt he trust me that i would never be involved with someone
who insisted on controlling my relationships with longterm people in my
life like???
this is also abundantly clear cos dan, hearing that, hearing that clarity,
literally tried to make a move
kinda wild he only ever tries
once he can feel im gone
if im single he doesnt give a shit
cos not going anywhere
im around & available as his friend
only only only the times im out
does he try to pull me back in
like he literally is not attracted to me
it has never been a romance thing
he just doesnt want to lose "mama gillian"
& he is running the belief that if a woman is dating someone she cant have male friends
like that is his math
can see & experience & feel that crystal clearly to me in my own relative reality
that's what nadia is like for me
that's what jack is like for me
that's what anan is like for me
i am better for it
i mean that for friends, partners, found family, animals etc
if when relating to someone
you feel healthier?
you are in joy more often?
whatever that looks like for you?
(dancing & singing for me)
that is prolly healthy & a good relationship
as in, if you feel goldilocks comfortable & it isnt too hot or cold or hard or easy
to me, only my two cents, only my opinion
so i took the time to explain
in clarity something rather serious & simple & who knows why so misunderstood