# The Truth About Intimacy That Nobody Tells Men

Brother, I need to tell you something I learned the hard way, and it might save you years of pain.

The intimacy you think is possible? It's nowhere near what's actually available to you.

Most men are walking around thinking they understand connection. They don't. They're operating at 10% capacity and calling it a relationship.

The kind of intimacy I'm talking about changes how you walk through the world. It heals old wounds. It moves trauma out of your body. It gives you real confidence—the kind that shows up as calm, grounded presence. The kind people feel when you enter a room.

There's one requirement for that level of intimacy:

Safety.

Not romance. Not communication skills. Not date nights.

Safety.

# Here's the uncomfortable part most men miss:

Most women have never felt emotionally safe. Not consistently. Not deeply.

Women live with a baseline sense of unsafety that most men never experience.

When was the last time you felt physically threatened by a woman? For most of us, the answer is never.

For women? It's Tuesday.

Elevators. Parking garages. Long hallways. First dates. Every new man is a question mark.

So when she enters a relationship, her nervous system is already on alert. And every time you react to her emotions, her body logs you as unsafe.

She might not say anything. But her nervous system does.

Over time, your presence becomes something she braces against.

That's not intimacy. That's tolerance.

# The real test is simple:

When your partner is emotional, does she feel safer as the conversation goes on, or more guarded?

You don't need to answer me. Just be honest with yourself.

Most men see emotions as a threat. As an attack. As something to defend against or fix.

Wrong.

Her emotions are communication. And every time you react to them instead of regulate, you're telling her body: "I'm not safe."

# Here's what changed everything for me:

When she's emotional, I breathe. I slow down. I regulate myself.

I stop defending.

I stop correcting.

I stop reacting.

I get curious.

"What's going on?"

"Tell me more."

"What else is there?"

The more emotional she gets, the better. That means energy is moving. Something is being released.

When she's done, I don't fix anything. I thank her.

I thank her for trusting me.

For her vulnerability.

For letting me see her.

That's containment.

And when a woman feels held like that, something changes.

She relaxes. She softens. She opens.

When she can surrender emotionally, she can surrender to you. She can feel more with you. She can trust you. She can desire you.

# And if she doesn't want to have sex with you?

It's not a preference. It's a symptom.

Her nervous system doesn't feel safe.

And no amount of initiating, negotiating, or being nice will override that.

Sex doesn't disappear because she doesn't desire you. Sex disappears because her body can't relax with you.

Everything changed when I stopped trying to fix her emotions and started regulating myself. When I learned to stay grounded while she was emotional. When I held my center instead of leaking it.

That's masculine containment.

Containment creates safety.

Safety allows softening.

Softening allows desire.

#The red-pill crowd has it backwards:

TIL The final sermon of Martin Luther, the central figure of the Protestant Reformation, in 1546 was "entirely devoted to the obdurate Jews, whom it was a matter of great urgency to expel from all German territory."

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Loomer has designated Greene as her personal enemy and says there will be no room for friendship.

“I wish her nothing but the worse.”

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⚡️🚨 ALERT - A new Al-Araby TV investigative report details systematic sexual violence by Israeli prison authorities against Palestinian detainees. Filmed inside the Prisoners’ Club archive in Ramallah, the report reveals documented testimonies from men who describe being raped by Israeli prison guards — in some cases with sticks, and in others by police dogs.

One survivor, identified as “Ahmad,” recounts being stripped, bound, and raped “in a barbaric way” by Israeli guards, before being forced to witness other prisoners subjected to the same torture — acts he said were meant to “destroy us as human beings.” Other testimonies describe guards who took pleasure in the assaults — sometimes conducting them publicly before other prisoners as a method of domination and humiliation.

A Palestinian psychiatrist who treats these men tells the channel that even medical workers live in fear from retaliation and don’t speak out about the documented patterns of degradation and physical and psychological torture employed by Israel. He said victims were assaulted using animals as a form of psychological terror meant to deter Palestinians from resistance.

Researchers cited in the report asset that the Palestinian body itself has been turned into a “theater of colonial power” — used to display Israel’s authority through physical and sexual violence, and inflict pain as a demonstration of control.

The archive has documented 10 confirmed rape cases, but its director warns that the real number is far higher, since most survivors remain silent to avoid further retaliation. As they enter the Prisoners’ Club archive, before giving their testimony, former prisoners are confronted with the words on the door:

“Walk as if you did not hear.

Be silent as if you did not understand.

Ignore as if you did not see.

Forget as if you did not remember.”

The video opens with that haunting refrain, which the report describes as a reflection on how survivors are urged to suppress their trauma – as the rest of the world looks away.

Source: Al-Araby TV, October 15, 2025.

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“I want to exterminate them, every last one of them.. Yes, the Palestinians, all of them”

GM #Nostr

This is underrated and not shared enough.