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Recovered!! 🙏🏼 
Irene was off on a trip, and many new questions came into play: how was baby León going to sleep when he had never known bottle nor dummy? How was he going to sleep without the breast at 21 months? What was going to happen to Lorenzo, aged five, to have to wait for me to put his little brother to sleep first?
#parenting #fatherhood
“The problem with the research isn’t the way it presents caregiving as a burden, but how it presents it only as a burden, with little curiosity on what makes it a burden, and even less on what makes it an opportunity.”
Elissa Strauss in When You Care: The Unexpected Magic of Caring for Others
https://maternalstressproject.substack.com/p/making-room-for-joy
Parenthood’s small battles. The horrible and the positive aspects of the "terrible twos." From adorable baby to mischievous little goblin. Recipes, frustration, and strategies. A small victory on a chaotic morning.
If you know strategies that work well for you or have ideas triggered by this text — tricks? resources? — please hit reply and share!
I would say nostr:npub1n8gvnx827tdl46ke406sjx0t5ey4mrtptux766ejp9y2ff8cc3uqe4ufd0 is a good option re technology for journalists.
nostr:npub1uuxnz0sq60thc098xfxqst7wnw77l0sm3r8nn48yspuvz4ecprksxdahzv is news and original content not an algorithm. I find myself learning new things from their work.
nostr:npub1xm0rvnpw52nh7tk59ntly55w74rmd2cqvt3kg5zxrzz3rlssvspsk0gs6s is very progressive/ left news / opinion pieces.
nostr:npub1daajnadf0f0s7uz3yftur8434rtz2s949gkdpx7uyeapm9rlt0qq9q8w5z writes about parenting as a dad, so if you have kids…
nostr:npub1f5kc2agn63ecv2ua4909z9ahgmr2x9263na36jh6r908ql0926jq3nvk2u is another artist focused on street sketches. I love her work!
nostr:npub1q33jywkl8r0e5g48lvrenxnr3lw59kzrw4e7p0cecslqzwc56eesjymqu0 streams music from his own mastodon server but through Nostr. If you are in Europe it’s definitely worth a listen in the morning. He occasionally posts about technology but only related to his own setup.
nostr:npub1jcwuf0dh5vqsq44qavygqwjfecawf53fmx7gadlcdtuexz0548hqy4jyrz is an advocacy organization for digital privacy in the states. Worth following if you want to help fight KOSA and other uninformed legislation.
This is a challenge we spent some time working on earlier this year and recruited the above folks to feature or join Nostr.
If you are familiar with the flywheel effect, Nostr is a bit stuck on the turn around the bottom. The tech is there, there’s a group of enthusiastic early adopters but they are struggling to bring more folks in. Lack of diverse content is a major barrier however there are other challenges as well.
Someone joined a few weeks ago, introduced themselves and was bombarded by welcome messages to set up a wallet. The person left within an hour after noting they were not interested in Bitcoin. There is nothing wrong with enthusiasm however we need to meet people where they are. Not everyone is excited about Bitcoin and we should respect that and instead discover what they are interested in.
Censorship resistance is a lagging motivator meaning a person will only make the switch when they have personally experienced shadow banning or outright banning elsewhere. Yet most of the Nostr marketing in the wild leads with this selling point. Ask 5 average people what they think that means and what the social network behind it would be like and you’ll begin to see why the flywheel is stuck.
With that said the protocol is incredibly flexible which means there are lots of opportunities to build around and/or through these challenges. And there are many developers and teams doing good work.
My sense is that 2025 would be a good year to start linking all the pieces together. Less traditional keynote talks and more interactive working sessions focused on specific use cases.
I’m personally excited about the possibilities as we head into 2025!
Thank you nostr:npub1j60x528w2g2vkq5kae5uhh8y7sezjyj20zcsg0v9muc72cmdpu0s0md7ua!! Even if you don’t have kids… Because I talk about my experience as a father and share thoughts about what it means to be a man. I love it that people who don't have children also read Recalculating newsletter and write to me. In the end, it may be because, even if we are not parents, we are all daughters and sons. 😊
Parenting in the smartphone age brings unexpected challenges. From toddlers fixated on digital screens during potty training to the impact of "constant connectivity" on family life. Are smartphones solving problems or creating new ones in early childhood?
https://slate.com/life/2024/05/smartphone-parenting-toddler-potty-training.html
I appreciate your perspective and the thoughtfulness behind it. You're right that data can be manipulated, and in today's world, misinformation spreads quickly, especially with AI making it easier to create convincing yet false narratives. I agree that trusting the source is just as important as the information itself. As for our differing opinions, I absolutely agree that it's okay to disagree. Life experiences, education, and personal observations shape how we see things, and while I may lean on data for insights, it doesn't mean I'm dismissing the value of personal experience or intuition. You're right that we both could be wrong, or right, or not have all the answers—and that's part of being human.
When it comes to understanding women, I think it's crucial for all of us, men included, to approach things with humility and openness. The complexity of individuals, regardless of gender, often goes beyond data or assumptions, and that's something we both can agree on. Thanks for engaging in this discussion thoughtfully.
That being said, while I understand where you're coming from, there’s an important distinction between healthy skepticism and dismissing evidence altogether. Data itself isn't inherently flawed—it's how we interpret and apply it that matters. By focusing only on subjective experiences or behavior-based assumptions, there's a risk of reinforcing biases or making sweeping generalizations that may not be entirely accurate.
You mention trusting data as the "end all be all" of truth, but I think you might be oversimplifying. Data can be a tool, not a doctrine. It's just one way of seeking understanding. You also seem to dismiss the role of collective research and evidence-based conclusions, which, while imperfect, have advanced our understanding of many complex issues, including gender dynamics.
Lastly, your point about "wild assumptions about women" feels a bit off. While no one, including men, can fully comprehend another group’s experience, it’s not just about assumptions. It’s about making an effort to understand, listen, and respect what women themselves say about their capabilities, not relying on outdated stereotypes or one's own limited perspective. True wisdom comes from an openness to the full range of human experience, not just our own.
This is an explanation based on the first post, which is data (not opinion). 😉
Women are not only ahead in planning the family’s tasks, but they also remember (and organize) those of the rest of the family members: "Did you call the pediatrician?", "Did you find out if we can take the dog or where to leave it for the vacations?", and a long list of etceteras. This leads to what is commonly referred to as "hidden mental load".
And no, my friend, women do not have a factory setup that makes them better at these tasks than men. It's not much of a mystery: these are skills that are acquired and developed with practice. There is no special female biology, which men were denied in their DNA that comes with remarkable domestic or caregiving skills (or for everything we men don't do because they supposedly do it better).
More here: https://ipereyra.substack.com/p/what-is-the-invisible-work-that-we
Women are not only ahead in planning the family’s tasks, but they also remember (and organize) those of the rest of the family members: "Did you call the pediatrician?", "Did you find out if we can take the dog or where to leave it for the vacations?", and a long list of etceteras. This leads to what is commonly referred to as "hidden mental load".
And no, my friend, women do not have a factory setup that makes them better at these tasks than men. It's not much of a mystery: these are skills that are acquired and developed with practice. There is no special female biology, which men were denied in their DNA that comes with remarkable domestic or caregiving skills (or for everything we men don't do because they supposedly do it better).
From my garden, good morning! 😃
On a global level, women do 76.2% of all of the care work which is not remunerated, dedicating 3.2 times more time to these tasks than men, according to the International Labour Organisation (ILO).
As an exercise, let’s ask ourselves: Who is researching, looking for, finding, choosing and closing the deal on a specialist, pediatrician or therapist to cover the range of needs at different stages of childhood? Who skips work when a child gets sick and can’t go to school? And why is it like this?
A good start is asking ourselves several questions:
Why does one of us do the job better than the other? Do I have a natural talent for cleaning bathrooms? Why doesn’t the other one want to learn how to do that? And what’s behind it? A lack of trust? Reproducing co-dependency conditions? A rush of territorial control?
If what I do — remunerated work or knowing everything about my children — gives me a determined role and space in a relationship, what happens if I let it go? Can I become expendable, or less desirable?
https://ipereyra.substack.com/p/the-invisible-labor-of-motherhood
As a father, I go back to the role of son for a while and discover things about my parents. Their music, habits and upbringing. Is it harder now to be a parent than it was before?
#fatherhood
https://ipereyra.substack.com/p/thinking-about-my-late-parents-on
How does it feel to live without a smartphone? ‘Almost spiritual’
Do you agree?
Nimona 🙃 #saturday #kids
