I just sold the second ebook copy of the Swedish translation of my first novel. 🥳🥳🥳
I've blocked and reported as spam on a lot of "reply guy"s. I'm the one who wrote my comment, stop stealing it! If he at least replied with his OWN comment, but he's just a copy cat, not a reply guy. 😑
Is whoever is behind him a leftist politician or something?🤔🤣
Yes, and this is where dealmaking comes in. If there's a time when it's harder to listen, talk about it, and make a deal where both get what they want out of it while respecting the other. 🙃
How to win in a marriage 🤗
Forgive each other quickly.
Repenting and letting each other know, you’ll do your best to not do that again. Help each other out by telling them how you’d prefer that thing to be handled in the future.
If you can tell that you’re unreasonably emotional about something, take a moment to calm down, and think about what you really want, not just that you DIDN’T like what just happened. Ask them for help, because you felt “uncomfortable” with whatever it may have been, and then ask them to handle it the way you would have preferred next time.
Don’t blame the other person, assume they want the best for you, and that if they hurt you, that’s not how they want to treat you. Be kind when you ask for the other person's help with something they did, and be kind when they ask for your help.
How to win in a marriage 🤐
Tell the other ALL your secrets.
Tell the other person your hopes and dreams, what you like and dislike, and as soon as something bothers you.
Yes, there’s nuance to the sharing of secrets, but do it as soon as possible.
If you’re at a dinner party, wait until you’re alone, and let the other person know about anything that bothered you, but also ask if they can help you by letting them know how they can do it better next time, KINDLY.
Tell them about the things that you liked, big and small.
While at the party, celebrate each other, instead of cutting the other down.
This is not the place to air your grievances, do that when you’re alone! And to the other person, so they have a chance to fix it.
How to win in marriage 🥰
Feelings are made, not followed.
If you don’t feel love for your spouse, do something you know they’ll feel loved by.
Learn something new about your spouse. Ask them to share something about themselves that you may not know.
Take some time to think about all the things you like about them.
"He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord."
Proverbs 18:22
"It's better to live in a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife"
Proverbs 25:24
Getting a wife is a good idea, but make sure to be picky so you can enjoy the whole house 😎
Good point. Yes, women need to learn that if a man likes a woman, he's standard answer is actually going to be yes, because he wants to do things for her. 😊
If you hit someone with a stool, it's a stool sample 🤣🤣🤣
What did you not "expect to get any" of?
I know it can come across like that, but it's actually healthy communication.
So many men struggle to listen to their wife's, even if they love and care for them. But it's because if a heard a woman start a sentence with somethig to do but them goes on and on about the story, they feel frustrated.
So, it's actually kind of a woman to go straight to the point if she wants him to do something. If she wants to share the story, that's okay, just let him know it's story time, not action time, or he'll easily feel like his time is being wasted.
She starts with wanting his help with the car, and the next moment she's talking about what the hairdressers cousin said at the wedding they attended, which has nothing to do with the car, and the man is still waiting for what's wrong with the car, so he can help her with that.
I hope this clarifies. 🤔
How to get what you want from a woman 😎
Women want to please men. We want to help out and assist.
Sometimes unhealthy women go overboard and take over instead of simply assisting.
If this happens, kindly tell her, "can I finish this on my own?" A kind woman will quickly step back.
Tell her how you want her to treat you, "can you ask before you help me?"
Women wanna come, simply to keep you company. She doesn't need to, she just wants to. She doesn't need to have a task, and if she does, let her "push the cart." If you go to the hardware store or such.
How to understand women 😅
If a woman is telling you about a problem, start by just hearing her out. Or ask, "do you want me to listen, or help you solve this?"
We usually wanna be heard out before we're open to a solution, and sometimes, we solve it ourselves by being heard out.
Women cry to let out tension, so sometimes, just let her cry for a moment and ask if she feels better, instead of making fun of her for crying.
When women get pressured, we get stupid. Allison Armstrong mentioned this, and it clicked for me. My husband tried it out, and realized how true it is.
If I get pressured, it gets harder for me to think straight and to come up with the right words. It's harder to make decisions and everything is going to take longer than if I have some space, take a deep breath and let it out.
How to stop being a feminist 💃
If a man offers to help you with something that you can do, let him.
Most men know you can do it, but think that you don’t need to, hence why they offer to help.
Yes, I can carry all the bags myself, but I don’t have to, I can ask for help and it’ll be much easier.
Yes, I can change a tire, but if a man offers, I’ll gladly let him do it.
How to get what you want from a man 😃
Don’t nag, instead ask for his help, and thank him when he does it.
“Can you help me by taking out the garbage?”
Men play for points, and to win, so if you tell him how to win with you, and show him gratitude that he did it, even if he missed something, he’ll wanna keep helping you! But if you complain, he’ll be turned off and won’t wanna do any of it.
Men are awesome, let them be awesome to you!
How to get what you want from a man 🤔
Try telling him what you want him to do, without the story. Ask straight questions, and give straight answers.
I struggle with the latter, but I’m also a verbal processor and sometimes I don’t know what I want, so when my husband asks me a question, I need to verbally figure out what I want, before I can give him the straight answer. We made a deal where I try my best to let him know if I’m processing, so he knows how to listen.
How to be awesome 🙃
I take things seriously, but not myself.
I took the StrengthsFinder 2.0 test once, and it showed Responsibility in my top 5.
My husband commented on how he likes that I somehow manage to be both responsible, and fun at the same time. Most people are either responsible, and serious, or they’re fun, and irresponsible. But somehow, we’re both!
How to be awesome 😎
I try my best to be encouraging. I focus on the little wins, and I celebrate them.
If my husband tells me that he finished a duolingo lesson, l will celebrate. I’ll either go “Woohoo” or I’ll tell him, “Good job!” with a smile.