How to get what you want from a man π€
Try telling him what you want him to do, without the story. Ask straight questions, and give straight answers.
I struggle with the latter, but Iβm also a verbal processor and sometimes I donβt know what I want, so when my husband asks me a question, I need to verbally figure out what I want, before I can give him the straight answer. We made a deal where I try my best to let him know if Iβm processing, so he knows how to listen.
Kinda manipulative
I know it can come across like that, but it's actually healthy communication.
So many men struggle to listen to their wife's, even if they love and care for them. But it's because if a heard a woman start a sentence with somethig to do but them goes on and on about the story, they feel frustrated.
So, it's actually kind of a woman to go straight to the point if she wants him to do something. If she wants to share the story, that's okay, just let him know it's story time, not action time, or he'll easily feel like his time is being wasted.
She starts with wanting his help with the car, and the next moment she's talking about what the hairdressers cousin said at the wedding they attended, which has nothing to do with the car, and the man is still waiting for what's wrong with the car, so he can help her with that.
I hope this clarifies. π€
So true. My wife does the sameβshe starts telling me about her friend's hair, her husband, her kids, her dog... I'm like, Just tell me what's wrong with the car; I have a game to watch. π
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Advice I always give new bridesβ¦β¦
βYou will ask him for something, expecting a βnoβ, with a counter-argument/story, ready to go. When he surprises you with βyesβ, just say βthanksβ, and omit the storyβ.
Good point. Yes, women need to learn that if a man likes a woman, he's standard answer is actually going to be yes, because he wants to do things for her. π
In fairness, we need to learn to listen, and let you finish sentences, even when we know you well enough to, lol.
Yes, and this is where dealmaking comes in. If there's a time when it's harder to listen, talk about it, and make a deal where both get what they want out of it while respecting the other. π
Wow this is a great description of how most women appear to communicate. Itβs like you need to communicate an emotional state as much as the concrete information
The womanβs brain is wired like spaghetti, where everything is related to everything. The male mind is boxes of related things, each in their own separate category
