One reason to practice semen retention is so that you can perform at a moment’s notice. If your wife gives you a wink or nudge or if she wants to squeeze in a quickie before work, nothing is worse than knowing that you recently rubbed one out and now your body is not up to the task of pleasure.
#retention
Have always struggled to be communicative about what I want from people. Then when they don’t fulfill those things, I am resentful.
Pamper your wife, be kind, then keep your own hobbies and go do your own thing. Give her time to miss you. This will drive up attraction/neediness and and she will not be able to live without you. If you are always available, she will take you for granted and attraction will plummet.
#attraction #relationships
When I do certain household tasks, my wife says things like “I am so turned on right now” - but she is not actually turned on. She is appreciative, yes. Moist,m between the legs, not so much. What she is really saying is that she feels freedom from concern and stress, which gives her mental space to focus on things like taking care of our family and being loving towards me.
#women #responsibility
As a man it is important to assume responsibility in all situations. Do not deflect responsibility or place blame elsewhere. You should be able to draw all failures back to yourself, take ownership, learn from the situation, and move forward. Your wife does not want to solve your problems for you and does not want to hear your complaints about work, money, etc. These things will stress her out and then make her resentful if she has to be the one to provide solutions to your problems.
#responsibility
Women are delicate. Their self worth depends on the approval of others. It is causing her pain to see someone getting more “likes” than she is, and of course, she gets a lot of attention by revealing how hurt she is by all this.
#women
Some “hobbies” that actually attract and turn on women:
Being healthy and fit
Smelling good
Having an option
Sticking up to bullies
Having fun with children
Physical activity, getting sweaty with her
“Dangerous” things - shooting guns, white water rafting, breaking rules
Being passionate about something other than yourself
Not giving a fuck what she thinks about you
#attraction #women
The worst thing you can do is beg for sex or act dejected if your wife is not in the mood. Be an adult and accept that sometimes you’re in the mood and some times you are not. Trying to pressure her into sex this one time will build resentment and not help your relationship in the future. Be playful, don’t take it personally, and come back tomorrow to tease her all day and ratchet up the tension.
#wife #attraction
The “Attractive Hobbies” list is again, things that women think they are attracted to. Idealized visions of a man. Very few of those items are anything that would be exhibited in early interactions when attraction is triggered. You could never read a book, be into cosplay, and hate art - but by the time she finds out any of this, she is already attracted to you because she is actually attracted to your confidence and leadership, not to your hobbies whatsoever.
Nothing screams “attractive man” like Comic Books and Cosplay, right? Women do not understand what they are actually attracted to. This is why you see articles written by liberal women complaining that they can’t find any masculine Democrats.
My wife masturbates “because she wants to go to bed”, not “because she doesn’t want to go to bed yet”
You wants to be taken by the hand (or wrist) and led around. She wants to stress free. A stressed woman does not feel sexy. She needs to be able to feel sexy.
Dave Asprey can be douchey but a lot of his ideas are useful. In the comments of this video, someone said “How does less ejaculation = more sex?”
https://video.nostr.build/ec8046d3138abada79031ac198c1f345e8a9039dd77db2ac7fe966a0bb24ade8.mp4
The answer is [A] your sessions will last longer because you are doing everything you can to keep going without finishing, and [B] you will also have more sessions because your sex drive will remain high because you are not depleting your energy and hormones by ejaculating. (It takes a lot of energy for your body to generate semen, while retaining will give you more energy and drive to find a sexual outlet.) [C] Your partner will become more attracted to you and want more sex because your behavior will subltly change and your body will be giving off more hormones. Another bonus is that you get to explore transmutation / sublimation.
#sex
She says she “doesn’t mind” sucking dick yet she gets soaking wet when you fuck her face 🤤
Read between the thighs.
#women
Being a “boss girl” is outside of a woman’s nature. She will step into a leadership role if she must, but it outside her natural wheelhouse. She functions best (and is most grateful) when she is allowed to live a life of few real concerns, beyond caring for her family and herself. Let her cook and care for the home while you lift heavy things and do dirty jobs. She will become content, compliant, and eager to please you.
#women
If you like something your wife did, be vocal about it. Tell her how much you loved the meal she cooked. Tell her how hot she looks in that dress. Tell her how good it felt when she did that thing with her mouth. She’ll be more likely to do it again.
If she is feeling sexy, do not discourage it. Meet her energy and push the interaction forward. Be playful and do not make her feel bad for giving her sexual energy to you.
Like? Yes.
Attracted? No.
If he has to tell you, then it’s not true
If she is being a brat (or worse), do not say things just to appease her or to just shut her up. Listen, stay calm, and be willing to let her be upset. She wants confirmation that you can control your emotions and will not be pushed around. Let her walk away upset. She will reward you later.