today i hosted two workshops for dv and sa survivors feeling activated by today’s inauguration. these are some of the prompts we did in case they would be helpful for you in your own time. a common theme was sensitivity to feeling minimized by their loved ones and/or community members. -

1. we set a timer for 5 minutes and each wrote down things that we knew to be true.

2. we set a timer for 3 minutes each to do an uninterrupted rant. at the end of the rant, one could ask for what they needed. most people asked to hear a related story or just wanted to feel heard and not minimized.

i’m helping plan a staff trip to punta del este, uruguay this nov. anyone out here have recommendations for additional excursions or activities we should be considering? i will also be staying in uruguay an extra few days, and am open to suggestions for that :)

so cool!

We did, but we will probably be back in Oct! Will reach out if so!

Gonna be in Charlotte, NC for the ~2.5 days for a documentary shoot. Any suggestions for favorite foods we should try + particular classic Charlotte imagery we should consider for b-roll? Have been a few times now for this project, but always learning.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EO3XbmqdkU0

I just learned about Australia banning children from using social media. I thought people here might have interesting opinions on this move if you wanna share.

Thanks, Death Valley is p epic with many shapes!

We’re talkin about roadtripping again to go deeper through the US southwest this winter. Any recs for what we should try to do or see?

nostr:npub1q5jxvccuds9wmpqhr7p770y4ewqcfr2dehqarm5alhm4hpgvrj6qtm2qhm checking in to see if you’d still be interested/available for this - we are thinking we will have a temporary link available for 48 hours this weekend and also have an option for a real-time viewing on Sunday at a time to be decided still. If the timing is off, we will have another round of rough-cut viewing in October!

Hi, I’m co-directing a feature documentary for public television and I NEED YOUR HELP. We are working through a new rough cut (basically a very rough draft of a film) and we are hoping for feedback from people who've never seen it before. And, even better, people who don’t really know me. I figure this is a space with a good pocket of open-minded, critical people. Are you interested? There will be a virtual and in person NYC option sometime over the next two weeks.

If yes, a summary of the project is here, flagging! Yes, it does deal with themes of suicide - https://itvs.org/films/what-will-i-become/ (ITVS is basically a production entity that works with independent films and streamlines the process to get them onto public television). And, if you’re STILL interested after knowing what it’s about - write in the comments here or DM me on Primal.

Feel free to share this around as well <3

Today I turned in the anthology, “Meet Me There, Another Time,” full of letters queer and trans people write to places they’ve had to leave behind, to the publisher. We will begin the production process next week. And it only makes sense this overlaps with the 10 year anniversary of finding my first “long term” home as an adult (lol only ~10 months) concluding what I also call, “The Year of 40 Homes,” which is exactly how it sounds.

I’ve been reflecting recently that it’s only these ten years later I’ve ever started to wrap my mind around what it means to have a future, or what it even means to stay. I feel impatient sometimes of not knowing the answers. I feel the way in which I’ve lost time, like many people. I am thankful for this atlas of letters, I think, to process more, connect more. And it all scares me, too.

Here is the window view of the first place I tried staying, which is to say I didn’t know this version of NYC nor this version of myself existed. As my friend Heather put it, there’s a version of you that fits into a potted plant and there’s a version of you that can plant into the ground. The growth, the seasons are different.

https://video.nostr.build/d27a85843cc876cfc2765c51b3b47bf00ba64962bc0df27c085733d11da4efbe.mp4

I’m hosting beginner skate classes in nyc again Saturday and Monday mornings. If you or a loved one wanna, or talk about a different time, hmu! Lil video from rehearsal for a fun collab with pal, John Tournas last summer.

WHAT WILL I BECOME? (my debut feature documentary) is en route to public television. ITVS supports storytelling that frequently premieres on programs like Independent Lens, POV, American Masters, and FRONTLINE. We chose to collaborate with them not only because of their reputation for integrity and community-led projects, but also because it will allow this story to be widely accessible, free to different audiences through broadcast and streaming. We will be continuing the post-production process over the next year, and are looking at a premiere likely in 2026. You can learn more here, https://itvs.org/films/what-will-i-become/

To be candid - this news arrives so bittersweetly after four years of working with the project and four years before that of working up the courage to start it. In many ways, this film should have never had to be made. We making this, people in front of the camera, people behind the camera, and the people lost to suicide we are remembering - Blake and Kyler - are real. It has been incredibly hard up to this point being in the position of having to convince others that this work was important. And, with this breakthrough, there is now no more convincing. We can just do the work. And with that work, I feel the big responsibility, the grief, and the deepened awareness this is all just as much about life as it is about death.

I don't always know why I am alive, but I can say with a certainty I am determined to do the most holding I can with it, in it. My heart breaks every damn day, but I think our community deserves nuance, a fold beyond statistics and news clips and 101s. To trans boys (and enby people navigating your own relationship to masculinity!) reading this, may you continue to surprise yourself. May you not lose the parts of yourself you love in the journey of being affirmed. May you know that you don't gotta go at life as a lone wolf.

Inspired by a text-convo I’ve been having recently, curious to know what’s your definition of the suburbs?

Collage inspired by an early draft of “The Ship We Built,” called “In The Bloodstream.” It was inspired by my childhood fantasy that there were whales living inside my bloodstream and bellybuttons were akin to their blowholes. Was special to sneak that nugget into a novel so many years later.

https://video.nostr.build/93529f246de771d9998525b8edb220ccb3b305ffb40ba785cd8966213a06cbc6.mp4

Will go to Brooklyn to sing in a basement Celine Dion choir mashup // ty, Gaia Music Collective

"The Ship We Built" feature film, which I wrote based on my debut middle grade novel, is now in partnership with Randan Productions! A small, but mighty Scotland-based, award winning production company celebrating queer and trans-led content.

Thankful as heck to have a more official jump into this with Jack G and Annie R and Reece C after what has already been a several year journey. Together we are taking on big themes such as loneliness, imagination as a tool for survival, incarceration, and what we rely on before we have the words (for a person, a feeling, an identity, a source of abuse, or even our own names). Some of the projects inspiring me the most include "Room," "Beasts of the Southern Wild," "Close," "Boyhood," "My Life as a Zucchini," "Perks of Being A Wallflower," etc. Reach out if you wanna know more ⚓

I do have good news that he got out of Morocco this weekend!! I am very thankful and excited to know he arrived to his next destination safely. It’s not necessarily a place better for trans life, but at least he’s away from the specific people threatening him. With a little healing, I am hopeful he will be able to move towards his next destination (that will provide more political safety) sooner than later.

https://www.nos.social/career/product-intern

Nos is seeking a paid product intern to support the app through its public launch! P cool opportunity for any students in your life.

https://video.nostr.build/5260628e32451af3b650ff1fb60b32eed7f68899c9cc8bef6856f7ca86882a6f.mp4

a favorite dance moment from the vault - something i return to when i doubt myself / ft a top 3 contact improv dance partner of my life, cuy cph