Hey, Nostr…

This is an #introductions post, but it’s not my first npub.

I’ve become quite close with many of you over the course of 2023. I consider a number of you to be real friends.

But I haven’t found the courage to open up some of the personal struggles I’m facing. Partly out of shame, partly out of the fear of validating my failings by putting them in writing.

But what I do know is the love and support and kindness that exists among this crew, and I’m feeling like I could really stand to lean on that energy a bit right now. I’m hopeful that, even through this anon account, there’s room for friendship, freely given.

I’ve struggled with a range of compulsive/risky/addictive behaviors for a long time, but it’s gotten harder lately. It’s the devil I’ve danced with since my teenage years, and it’s been especially difficult lately to align my active behavior with my heart, intuition, and personal goals.

I believe I “trained” my neural pathways to lean on various dopamine/reward pathways in times of stress during my adolescent development - or, to be honest, from a much younger age - and these mental habits have become deeply ingrained.

It’s not one specific “addiction” the way that people often struggle with, but my tendency to fall into patterns of substance abuse and other ego-inflating activities goes through cycles, which I’m just beginning to understand come from very deep, old parts of myself, and it feels like things have been escalating farther outside of a level of baseline acceptability lately.

I can point to various moments of trauma or conditioning that led me to try to self-soothe in these ways, and I’ve developed compassion for the parts of myself that are “trying to help” even in self-destructive ways.

But I’ve had a harder time with everything lately than I have in a long time. I don’t feel able to share this with my partner, but I am recognizing that it may be too much to handle on my own. Because I’ve tried for years. Self-imposed rules aren’t enough, because they don’t heal the broken parts. And I’m afraid that I’m risking the things I hold most dear, including my loved ones and my own self-worth and self-respect, if I don’t find a way through this.

I know some of you have faced things like addiction, trauma, loss, and personal failures. And I’ve seen the beautiful people that you are. I know and recognize that beauty in myself too, but I’m continually undermining my own happiness and fulfillment. I’m learning to pray again, to turn inward and connect with myself. But I’m also deeply stuck enough that I keep ending up in those patterns that hurt my heart and betray my soul.

I don’t even know if anyone will see this. If the default relays on this client have wide reach. If my VPN is effective or if I’ll dox my identity here.

But man… I sure could use a few kind words, advice, or encouragement from others who have been in a similar place before. If you’ve read this far, I already deeply appreciate you. You’re probably one of the friends I’ve made this last year 🫂

Since I've started my new job as a plumber I've been going to sleep and waking up excited for the day.

This was not always the case for me.

Be great and build something today <3

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I’ve been working in cabinets for about 8.5 years. It’s my family’s business, I do a lot of design and cutting on the cnc router, and I have some great builders I work with who help put everything together.

A very wise and successful person once told me to try to be the last to speak. Listen to all the perspectives in the room, take a moment to digest and process the information, and then speak. I don't do it all the time, mainly because I don't have patience for 🐂💩. However I do it enough 5hat I saw the impact in the respect I get in planning meetings, plus often the last concept sticks! 😁

Stack Sats and stay humble

Many cabinets in process

#workinprocess #build #customcabinets

I believe that this was the original reason for developing mRNA treatments, it’s the “vaccines” that defeat the purpose of mRNA because they were not supposed to be mass produced, they were supposed to be custom to the specific form of cancer and patient

Nah, they made it airborne in I Am Legend

Yes, but thankfully scientists are smarter than Hollywood executives. 😂

Come to think of it, Corky from Life Goes On can run circles around Hollywood executives.

This afternoon:

"Jeremy, why don't you give Ted a call and see if they need anything."

(Our county has been pretty much snowed in for the last week and we are getting down to -2F tonight. Ted and Helen are in their later 80's, they have a 1/4 mile unpaved driveway and heat their house with a woodstove. I'm sure there is some way we can help)

We immediately find out that they have run out of scratch for their chickens.

I send Jeremy over with 2 large Ziploc bags of scratch, a loaf of banana bread, and a jar of homemade tomato basil soup.

While visiting Jeremy gets the scratch out to the barn and feeds some to the chickens. He then helps Ted restock the firewood at the house. Ted had already fallen three times trying to move wood in a wheel barrow across the snow.

Jeremy returns home with a jar of Ted's honey and a bottle of wine.

This is community.

Take care of eachother.

#grownostr #plebchain #community

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