nostr:npub139k3u6hnyhzhyrprhdhpp7qqgdv5w9wa6fvhgqkel32tr0n38dfqsu5d9t some of the first online systems i accessed, BBSes, had chat systems that worked exactly like that. the interaction style on Snapchat isn't so dissimilar to it either. it's some of the reason why the app is popular with women. it's immediate feels more like real interaction instead of a correspondence of telegrams.

nostr:npub1uhyp2jpp5gwjqh7w52tlapdwssmycmxglw2dzavy3mas3sfr83rsv6y4d5 no, i haven't. but i've heard my share of personal histories, insecurities, conplexes and tragedies. my curiosity about people and how they work has taken me down the path of psychology, especially social psychology, a fair bit. one issue i've always had is sensitivity. it's part of the reason why i was bullied in school in the first place.

nostr:npub1gnxcgfn80yk2dgkdq6luj4p9cemajz85flcuxrkudlyn7pgya7jq3twfgl worked as a freelance illustrator, a few years my senior, sensitive artist type

nostr:npub1gnxcgfn80yk2dgkdq6luj4p9cemajz85flcuxrkudlyn7pgya7jq3twfgl this was on a social platform for adults who are seeking friends and she was here in Oslo so there's a chance we could've met

nostr:npub1gnxcgfn80yk2dgkdq6luj4p9cemajz85flcuxrkudlyn7pgya7jq3twfgl we were actually in agreement but i don't think she quite believed it or understood it

nostr:npub1gnxcgfn80yk2dgkdq6luj4p9cemajz85flcuxrkudlyn7pgya7jq3twfgl no

nostr:npub1uhyp2jpp5gwjqh7w52tlapdwssmycmxglw2dzavy3mas3sfr83rsv6y4d5 there is a lot to tackle here because i kind of have to pull myself up by my own bootstraps and my motivation for it is often lacking - i've been close to being evicted myself

nostr:npub1uhyp2jpp5gwjqh7w52tlapdwssmycmxglw2dzavy3mas3sfr83rsv6y4d5 i find the idea of volunteering a bit challenging because it wouldn't really be out of a personal interest in that.

nostr:npub1uhyp2jpp5gwjqh7w52tlapdwssmycmxglw2dzavy3mas3sfr83rsv6y4d5 this unmet need probably didn't do wonders for my job performance as a computer programmer either, because it's not exactly a job that satisfies your social needs, and when those are unmet, it's harder to concentrate on working

nostr:npub1uhyp2jpp5gwjqh7w52tlapdwssmycmxglw2dzavy3mas3sfr83rsv6y4d5 understanding what you just explained to me took me most of my young adulthood because it wasn't obvious to me that it was a coping mechanism

nostr:npub1uhyp2jpp5gwjqh7w52tlapdwssmycmxglw2dzavy3mas3sfr83rsv6y4d5 i know they are a poor substitute and i'm working on the other kind, but it's complicated and will take some time

it says something about me that the first thing i wanted to use a computer for as a kid was to type with people far away in real time.

i still want to use computers for that. i mean, what i really want out of a chat program is for it to behave more like you're two teletype or telegraph operators and you're having a conversation.

people who expect chat to be real-time are usually people who hate to be kept waiting and who immerse themselves in the other person fully for a while. like you would in a face-to-face conversation.

the other type of person uses chat more like a messaging service. writing telegrams instead of being present for the conversation.

Snapchat is very much designed around being present and talking in real-time. when the other person checks the chat window, you get notified, so you know they're there. it resembles real-life interaction a bit more.

nostr:npub1ur3mr0ggwgh0tej47utqulsdc680kefm60xhdler5wtyytef8wnqu6kwtl i'm just sad because it looked like we were becoming good friends, but she was an illustrator, so she's probably the sensitive type.

nostr:npub1ur3mr0ggwgh0tej47utqulsdc680kefm60xhdler5wtyytef8wnqu6kwtl i think some people just prefer to know when conversations start and when they end, and when they're in one, they're fully focused on that.

based on how sensitive she was to silence, she was a bit deeper than her cheerful conversational style would suggest. you have to read a lot into someone to block them over a pause in the conversation.

someone just blocked me over a misunderstanding.

i left to go shopping for food but didn't respond to her last message, which was political.

then, after a while, she said "i see that i struck a nerve." and soon after "i'm out." and then i was unable to send messages anymore.

this is one problem with online platforms. can't clear up any misunderstandings after a block has happened.

someone just blocked me over a misunderstanding.

i left to go shopping but didn't respond to her last message, which was political.

roting med ord...

det jeg mente å si var

"her var det mye flasker å pante"

men så kom det

"her var det mye fanter å plaske"

the ventilation system in this condo makes a whistling noise that sounds like there are bees living in the walls. it's rather unpleasant when you have bad nerves.

Tasting History With Max Miller | The 10,000 Calorie Sumo Wrestler Diet

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