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*internal screaming*
i'd feel vaguely threatened as an adult man if i saw that approaching me
sympathetic noises
en app jeg prøver å bruke. men kunne godt hatt flere aktive brukere:
nostr:npub1qfkcklnmes45z75y7y8dkud5yll8vp5eq5ysk9rmgqdxeasv8unsrfj6kq having more of those turns you into a kind of amplifier. that's how i feel when i see a new user on here and boost their intro.
the difference between connection and friendship is substantial, and it's rarer to find friends than connections, but both have their value, and every friendship began as a first interaction followed by a connection.
being in touch with a few people on the regular is a foundation you can build upon, but it takes active effort to maintain it.
one difference between a friend and a connection is that friends tend to participate in each others lives more actively.
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I didn't watch the whole thing but he seems to get better over time: Social skills are developed and maintained through training.
nostr:npub1uhyp2jpp5gwjqh7w52tlapdwssmycmxglw2dzavy3mas3sfr83rsv6y4d5 exposure therapy, and "use it or lose it" i suppose. it's the kind of skill that most definitely gets rusty over time. people who were popular in high school might not know how to socialise when they're older, etc. and it's a little rough on your psyche if it's been a while.
Asking Random Strangers to Be My Friend
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ct9KmbZL6UA
it helps a bit that everyone there is going to college, but one important thing he does here is not make a big deal out of the rejections.
there's a camera there, and everyone can see it, but that's both good and bad. it makes people curious because he's making a video, but a lot of people don't like being on camera and might think it's some kind of prank, so i'm thinking it kind of doesn't make much of a difference.
you feel like you're with him as a viewer, but that's an illusion. people just saw a dude walking around alone with a selfie camera.
i think if i was going to try having tech as a hobby again, i'd have to do it in a deliberately pointless way, such as messing around with outdated tech, make it do silly stuff, etc. would be kind of funny to not even own a desktop computer except for something ridiculous that can't even connect to the Internet.
why has this week gone by so quickly? i thought it was Friday just the other day.
personal observation
a group of guys try to make friends in hard places:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=adxrYOCj5xA
practical demonstration of what you'd have to do to make friends if you were starting completely from scratch.
a group of guys try to make friends in hard places:
nostr:npub1qfkcklnmes45z75y7y8dkud5yll8vp5eq5ysk9rmgqdxeasv8unsrfj6kq the main trait of the women on my mother's side is that they're all built like tanks. big-boned.
i am in favour of "clean", and am supportive of the cause.
it's always a bit like that once you get to know people - "i don't want to be the difficult one... but i'm the difficult one."
savage comeback
her: surprise, motherfucker
there is a lot of variation in how old people look and act compared to their biological age.
someone joked that their hobby is to kill time, so i joked they must go to bars a lot then, and i was correct.
arguably, going to a bar, especially if it's the same group of people every time, is a kind of hobby. like Cheers the TV show.
some people do that without the alcohol. dad is retired and he likes to just sit at a table they put out at the local shopping centre and wait for people he knows to pass by to strike up a conversation. he has enough acquaintances that there's a pretty good chance that someone he knows is going to pass through there.
i was asking about hobbies to meet new friends and someone proposed fishing.
i have never heard of a fishing club before... that's the kind of thing that you typically do alone... and it's 99% guys.
end credits theory
"i'm a huge fan of electricity."
found a page for German memes and the everyday language they use there made me realise how close i am to being fluent in German as opposed to a language like Spanish.
kle deg som nisse
nostr:npub1l64cdp3m0grhkqxwlxxp2cypew58407xedv9vxrmh8588awh4y0qjn5dkt there's only one type of place i know for people who have that as their hobby: a bar.
i want real-life friends and it's been suggested that i meet people through my hobbies. so i looked around for clubs but they don't really exist for my hobbies.
most of my "hobbies" resemble freelance jobs and were dropped when i realised they wouldn't be making me any friends or money.
as for hobbies that don't resemble freelance jobs? i don't have any. most of my free time is spent learning and discussing and my interests are fairly broad.
it has taken me decades to develop some good habits, but progress is pretty slow and relapses are frequent. it's a fragile and incomplete life structure that is easily knocked over by stress and upset. i'm a thinker but i mostly behave like a cat if left to my own devices. big gap between thoughts and actions. small gap between feelings and actions.
nostr:npub1uxmmyz2nw8ys8npflt93m9yu5c8ewckp00xsu5g3aykvn836jt7qyxujtm i have also made several attempts at getting a driver's license but the material you have to study is 90% rote memorisation through repetition. it was uninteresting and i didn't really feel that i was absorbing the material at all, and progress was very slow, so i gave up on it. i can't seem to really learn material i don't have some natural interest or immediate need for.
nostr:npub1uxmmyz2nw8ys8npflt93m9yu5c8ewckp00xsu5g3aykvn836jt7qyxujtm my inability to remain structured over time is effectively a disability that i've gradually come to realise that i have and is the main reason i began looking for answers in my early 30s, and how i ended up with my ADHD diagnosis.
nostr:npub1v6l7t8u2h9nl669ft4uca2ptmweym6g357c63wgqg3wfcuyenzfs0nxfqn vi har funnet den skyldige!
nostr:npub1uxmmyz2nw8ys8npflt93m9yu5c8ewckp00xsu5g3aykvn836jt7qyxujtm or regular meet-ups, which do happen here.
classes are better in that you see people every day.
but it's pretty hard to find classes that have good teachers. and unless you go for public education, they're going to cost money.
it's possible to get courses funded through welfare, but if i'm going to do that, it means committing to a career path.
if i went the public education route, this would mean having classmates that are mostly 20 years younger than me. it would also require me to go back and actually finish high school first.
i have dropped out of 3 attempts to get qualified for college. twice when i was a teenager in high school, and once in my early 30s when i was trying to take a one-year prep course for engineering students which was essentially just an abridged version of high school.
i'm intelligent but i don't have the mental endurance to use my intellect in a school/office environment.
if i took classes, they'd need to be ones that are less heavy on theory and homework and aimed more in a practical direction.
nostr:npub1uxmmyz2nw8ys8npflt93m9yu5c8ewckp00xsu5g3aykvn836jt7qyxujtm i have also made several attempts at getting a driver's license but the material you have to study is 90% rote memorisation through repetition. it was uninteresting and i didn't really feel that i was absorbing the material at all, and progress was very slow, so i gave up on it. i can't seem to really learn material i don't have some natural interest or immediate need for.
nostr:npub1uxmmyz2nw8ys8npflt93m9yu5c8ewckp00xsu5g3aykvn836jt7qyxujtm or regular meet-ups, which do happen here.
classes are better in that you see people every day.
but it's pretty hard to find classes that have good teachers. and unless you go for public education, they're going to cost money.
it's possible to get courses funded through welfare, but if i'm going to do that, it means committing to a career path.
if i went the public education route, this would mean having classmates that are mostly 20 years younger than me. it would also require me to go back and actually finish high school first.
i have dropped out of 3 attempts to get qualified for college. twice when i was a teenager in high school, and once in my early 30s when i was trying to take a one-year prep course for engineering students which was essentially just an abridged version of high school.
i'm intelligent but i don't have the mental endurance to use my intellect in a school/office environment.
if i took classes, they'd need to be ones that are less heavy on theory and homework and aimed more in a practical direction.
no, the Earth is not the hottest it's ever been. no, climate change itself is nothing new.
but that's never what the scientists claimed either. it's more nuanced, and the media gets it wrong, as usual.
very detailed video essay about climate on a geological timescale and how our own era compares, from a channel that usually talks about astronomy:
no, the Earth is not the hottest it's ever been. no, climate change itself is nothing new.
but that's never what the scientists claimed either. it's more nuanced, and the media gets it wrong, as usual.
very detailed video essay about climate on a geological timescale and how our own era compares:
the font picker in LibreOffice is slow. they aren't doing anything smart to cache the font previews. naive implementation that was never improved upon. makes it almost unusable.
nostr:npub1jdnjk3rursksr6s6sc4wdst4ag9sf9fvrnqc7f5mfsegps07gh2q42ycw3 yeah, but then you're back to being a tool. i would like to meet my customers. that probably means i should be the entrepreneur. but before you can do that, you need to be a person that people would want to meet.
nostr:npub1jdnjk3rursksr6s6sc4wdst4ag9sf9fvrnqc7f5mfsegps07gh2q42ycw3 something about having a good network.