In my dream last night I was in China, and I was being judged very negatively by most Chinese people I was interacting with because I wasn't being strategic or subtle in my language I was just being open and honest, and they all saw that as a very negative trait. And I started thinking about how I could work on becoming more strategic and manipulative in my language. Then I woke up.
Discussion
Lol, what did you say? And why is being subtle manipulative ? :)
Dreams are strange. I don't recall saying anything, just that everybody around me had judged me as wanting. And people were dressed very sharply in traditional dress, and reveling in this social game. It was honestly more like Japan now that I think of it awake, but in my dream it was China. Somebody's mother in particular disapproved of me, I wasn't good enough for her daughter, and some slickly dressed Chinese guy (black slacks, silk shirt) who knew all the right things to say was definately this mother's choice for her daughter. But this daughter, I wasn't sure what she wanted and she had run away or something so I was stuck with her mother and this other guy in some awkward situation. I remember being kind of excited to learn how to play these social games because I had no idea such a thing even existed and I wanted to learn. But I was also posing and trying to pretend that I had some secret up my sleeve so I didn't look like a total fool. I'm embellishing a bit to make the dream coherent because like all dreams, it wasn't coherent. And I can't remember my dream very well this late in the day, but that was the gist of the feeling I got when I awoke.
😂 awww this is such a funny and romantic dream - that foreign boy taking away their precious local girl. I like how very detailed your dream was down to the black pants, silk shirt! And so many elements - the local boy you have to fight against, the future mother in law who is not pleased, the cultures you are getting used to.
But now I so want to know, did you win the girl in the end ? :)
The dream sequence in my head was very short, probably 15 seconds, but it had all that detail I described maybe not fleshed out like that, but that was the feeling I had. Definitely I was seen as unable to compete in the social game at even the beginner level, I was totally unskilled and totally foreign and looked down on. There was no progression of this story. I just woke up with this feeling that I'm totally ignorant of how other people see the world, and I've been terribly naive my entire life by being open and honest all the time, and maybe I should be more discreet or that I should consider my audience before I speak or something like that.
Sorry, maybe you wanted me to make up an intriguing story, and here I am being open and honest instead. See what I mean?
Lol that’s ok good sense of humour makes up for most things :) and nah, honesty is rare, men who can explain their thoughts even rarer - don’t loose both! I think being in a foreign land is not easy. I think asians or close tribal cultures are generally more subtle, and culturally don’t disrupt. It’s not that they are not opinionated or nor aware, it’s just the way of life. Totally rooting for this forbidden love dream girl to work out for you! :)