Welcome! it's an oddball little community here, lots of talk about Bitcoin and Red meat... but there are good folks and it's generally a good hang.
But cultural dynamics exist here too, and I can sort of see the same thing where Devs wind up being community leaders, for better or worse.
One thing I've been trying to harp on is better links to Mastodon. To me, Nostr's probably going to be too "weird and bitcoin-y" for the masses at the moment, but Mastodon is the place that can serve as a sort of refuge for both individuals and institutions that are getting "Enshittified" out of legacy platforms.