There's a difference between headship and ownership. He implied that he's not going to allow them to have a career, which is a life choice he doesn't get to make unless they give him their power, and is extremely dysfunctional. Filtering good or bad dating and husband prospects while they are minors is a good idea, but dictating whether or not they will have a career when they are adults is treating them like objects, and isn't good headship. And like I asked Laser, how long is he planning to make their life choices for them?
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A godly father exercises headship over what he “owns” in trust from God:
His children belong to him and ultimately to God, so he leads them.
His home is a little kingdom, and he is the appointed king, under the High King.
That’s why a godly man does not apologize for making decisions for his household. That’s his job. That’s what he’ll answer for.
He’s not treating them like property. He’s treating them like his responsibility.
God doesn't make life choices for his children.
Neither should fathers.
Um, what
Yep.
Except… that’s not even remotely biblical. God absolutely directs the steps of His people.
Proverbs 16:9
Proverbs 3:6
God isn’t some passive dad cheering from the sidelines. He calls, commands, disciplines, and leads.
And if you’re a father made in His image, that’s your job too.
Fathers aren’t called to sit back and vibe. They’re called to lead the household like a shepherd leads a flock…not with passivity, but with purpose.
God doesn’t just let His children “find themselves.” He conforms them to Christ. That’s discipleship.
And good fathers do the same.
So no. This take isn’t just wrong.
It’s lazy, liberal, and biblically illiterate