He’s not treating them like they’re weak. He’s treating them like they’re his, because they are. It’s called headship. From father to future husband and it’s the father’s duty to make sure that transfer is fitting.
God gave them to him, not to the state, not to the village, and certainly not to the shrill mob of evangelly-fish in the comment section.
There's a difference between headship and ownership. He implied that he's not going to allow them to have a career, which is a life choice he doesn't get to make unless they give him their power, and is extremely dysfunctional. Filtering good or bad dating and husband prospects while they are minors is a good idea, but dictating whether or not they will have a career when they are adults is treating them like objects, and isn't good headship. And like I asked Laser, how long is he planning to make their life choices for them?
A godly father exercises headship over what he “owns” in trust from God:
His children belong to him and ultimately to God, so he leads them.
His home is a little kingdom, and he is the appointed king, under the High King.
That’s why a godly man does not apologize for making decisions for his household. That’s his job. That’s what he’ll answer for.
He’s not treating them like property. He’s treating them like his responsibility.
God doesn't make life choices for his children.
Neither should fathers.
Um, what
Yep.
Except… that’s not even remotely biblical. God absolutely directs the steps of His people.
Proverbs 16:9
Proverbs 3:6
God isn’t some passive dad cheering from the sidelines. He calls, commands, disciplines, and leads.
And if you’re a father made in His image, that’s your job too.
Fathers aren’t called to sit back and vibe. They’re called to lead the household like a shepherd leads a flock…not with passivity, but with purpose.
God doesn’t just let His children “find themselves.” He conforms them to Christ. That’s discipleship.
And good fathers do the same.
So no. This take isn’t just wrong.
It’s lazy, liberal, and biblically illiterate
And what if his daughters grow into adults and refuse to get married then pursue careers instead?
Then he’ll love them. But he won’t lie to them. Because a godly father doesn’t rewrite the standard just because his kids wander from it.
Marriage and motherhood aren’t arbitrary preferences.
They’re creational callings.
“Be fruitful and multiply” wasn’t a suggestion. It was a commission.
So if they reject that design, they’re not breaking his plan. They’re stepping outside of God’s.
And no faithful father celebrates that.
He mourns it. He prays. And he stays the course, because his job wasn’t to affirm his daughters’ feelings. It was to form them for fruitfulness.
God doesn’t adjust the telos of womanhood just because the culture made careers the new golden calf.
And neither should fathers.
Then the father isn’t making the choice for his daughters. If they can refuse and take a different path, then the daughters are making the choice.
Exactly. The authority to lead and the freedom to rebel are not the same thing. Parents build the house. Adult children can still choose to walk out of it. But you don’t let them decorate the blueprints at age 12 in the name of “freedom.”
You’re mistaking agency at maturity with a lack of authority in formation.
And that’s how we got a generation of unfathered kids raised by screens and slogans.
I haven’t made a mistake. I’m just addressing what the post at the top says about him making the choices for his daughters not working and just getting married. I guess you don’t agree with him on that.
Haha. There’s been so much. Sorry, agree on which one?
