Nobody who has any sense thinks things are 50/50.
I've stopped listening to anyone who broadly thinks relationships should look one way or another.
I think the colloquialism "Behind every great man is his wife" sums it up nicely.
Men and women are better together than they are apart and everthing seems to work best when the requisite love, support and respect are given where necessary.
We all have exes too. There are bad women out there and there are bad men out there that can cloud our judgment on genders as a whole. There’s good ones too and ones that are on their way to learning what being a good partner really looks like. Some people take longer than others 🤷♀️
I’m still learning with my husband.
May you always learn. Truly.
My exes have been good humans. When my children’s father & I divorced we were so close in income that he was ordered to pay $86 a month for three kids or something crazy 🤪
We kept it that way for three years or something then went to court to drop
him paying completely. He offered to pay me alimony but me being stubbornly independent told him: …
Well I refused.
Either way, we raised our littles as co-parents & covered one another both financially & otherwise for the sake of our children. We weren’t great spouses but looking back fantastic co-parents. Happy about that now.
I try not to generalize anymore which I'm not great at but getting better.
Just because people are broadly similar doesn't mean that each individual is the same as the next.
My failed relationships are actually 100% my fault, or at least I can go back and figure a point in time when I should have ended things but didn't. Even though often the women in these situations ended up being the morally reprehensible ones, I don't blame them ultimately because to do so leaves no room for my own learning and I certainly don't judge all women based on the actions of a few.
We learn along the way. We forgive and move on.
Yeah I get you. I think I was mainly speaking to my experience with judging men based on how other assholes acted. It wasn’t fair.
In all honesty, I was very much the asshole in a lot of my younger relationships. Broken heart 💔 others didn’t understand.
Told as a young teen I think like a boy. Doctor said: It doesn’t make sense. You have the body of a girl but all the tests would say you are a boy. Astounding.
Me: So, that’s why I am different than the other kids. Doctor: Yes. You should have been a boy.
Cause poor healthcare in the Midwest didn’t care 🤣🤣🤣
I often think back to 14 year old me & what that meant to her 🤣🤣🤣🫂
Aw! Be who you are, not how you look 🫂
