I have a friend who always cheats on his girlfriends. That's how he is. Doesn't mean it's right. If he is ever caught he should apologize not be like "this is who I am. Deal with it"
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If he's failing to change a known character flaw then he is allowing himself to be a bad person, this doesn't mean that he can't change and sincerely repent. But until he changes his ways and stops infringing upon others, he is being a bad person... maybe he isn't a bad person, but he is BEING a bad person.
He is a bad person. He acknowledges it. He doesn't want to change
I honestly believe everyone has the possibility of redemption with the right help. For some it's easier and others much harder, hardest for those with sociopathic/psychopathic tendencies... but still not impossible. Just highly improbable.
Best thing you can do is know your own boundaries and keep such people at an arms length.
“Those who fail to witness history are destined to repeat it … “ Per always.
People do change but many choose to hold others accountable for their mistakes while never facing the mirror & accepting their own. Some even make careers off of this. Narrative warfare never stops.
Who are you to define what is bad? What may appear bad to you may ultimately prove to be good for others?
Personally, I’ve seen it play out too many times. Respect that others haven’t.
Indeed 🤷🏻♂️ can't argue with the first two points, but everyone has a right to try and define good/bad. But if you are a psychopath as you say then I see why you don't comprehend this and struggle with apologies 🤷🏻♂️ I just hope you can recognise when you may be harming others and prevent that from happening 🤷🏻♂️ I understand from your words that you do 🤗
Yep. Made my apologies to those I needed to long ago. Will continue in person when mistakes are made. Won’t apologize for being myself. That’s the distinction. ✊
One of my favorite poems ever: 🫡
Locked body
Mind
For crime
Another committed
Blind me with hate
And lies
Critically injured
Amputation
Blame another
Bury me
My voice
They tried
Perfect
Diamond
Pressured
To cut to the truth
For other diamonds
To help them see
They shine
Bright
🤗 poetry is an incredible medium of expression. I used to write poems but I've lost touch with that side of myself. I hope I find it again one day.
From my archive:
Sea water and wine flow through my veins,
Yet a pearl is hidden in the depths of my being.
The mollusc which holds it guards it from pollution,
But the pearl is aware, eternally all-seeing,
And the mollusc is hardened, covered in dirt.
Forgive me sweet pearl when I'm too afraid to meet you,
The ocean is so deep and I am so weak.
I wish I was stronger, to drown and to greet you,
To know you,
to see you,
to be you,
Complete.
That’s beautiful & lovely. You’re truly talented & should seek to find that part of you again. I’m crying. 😭
For good or bad no archives exist for me personally. Enough have taken my words anyway. So it’s all good.
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I was going to post this but replied to you instead so …
Lifelong favorite story of mine
Judged on looks
The desire to be seen
For all that I am
Good and evil encompassing
Read & repeated
In multiple timelines
Knew the moment I saw you
That you’d be my ending
- allowed you to reach out first
Balancing the scales again