They don't prefer to see you struggle. They just have a self confidence problem and it's hard to accept their friend/neighbor/coworker is growing and they are not.
Most people will NOT take responsibility for their OWN situation.
An old saying is, "It's lonely at the top." is all too true. It's harder to find friends and talk to people if you become very well educated.
I struggle to talk about some guy throwing a ball or another guy hitting a little white ball with a club or stick - I have no interest at all. Senseless noise in a world full of life and opportunity.
If I change the subject - say talk about the bond market or #Bitcoin - total deer in the headlights, "I have a financial planner that takes care of all that."
And our friends are business owners, and retirees with good lifestyles.
Get to the working class it's even worse. But all around it's pretty bad how tuned out most people are. The Western World is sorta on autopilot at the Colosseum of Rome. Bread and Games - all is grand and good - which is all going to change the next decade and YOU will be ready.