The idea of wanting to stay home with a child is not anti-feminist. Feminism is about choice — that women can choose to be anything they want, which includes bring the primary caregiver of their own child. #momstr
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Yes!
In practice though, many of the people who use that label do not advocate for this. A lot of women who have to work (dual income household) also shame mothers who stay home full time.
Many people need to check their priorities, but it’s also just an unfortunate circumstance as the economic situation worsens.
Yes, precisely — so many "feminists" don't agree with women chosing to stay at home. It's a strange phenomenon, women against women; women judging other women... It happens in so many circles/topics, not just in the SAHM debate.
In and before the mid-20th Century, SAHM was a societal default, so I understand the desire to break away from that, but in this day and age, staying at home very much an option, and in fact, often a privilege — like you say, the economy makes it harder than ever for single income households to exist these days.