hmmm tbh it is not even standard to provide or support a woman anymore imo? women are expected to be able to take care of themselves on their own, maybe in exchange for the greater personal and economical freedom theyve been granted.

but its terrifying and difficult to have children alone for anyone, man or woman.

even a couple of parents is barely enough, indeed a village is needed to help in taising one human. there has been a breakdown of family and community in our times so that’s definitely also discouraging

i personally have been against having children because i come from a single mother household and it was rough and i have not turned out too well from it myself, and i am afraid of even potentially having to put a child whose life im responsible for through a similar situation. some pretty severe mental conditions have been the outcome and i personally see myself unfit to be a mother. so god forbid even the father would be an unstable wreck.

and also, maybe this is just a generational thing, but so many people currently in their 20s, to me seem extremely ill prepared for adulthood even if they are not boggled down by medical problems. like even though my partner is a wonderful and trustworthy person we are literally both still teaching ourselves to feed ourselves and keep our surroundings tidy and organizing our time properly. like i wouldnt even give a baby to hold to people like us lmao.