What about love? Just curiosity...imagine you fall in love with a woman who is older and does not want to have kids, will you give up on love, to have kids and a family?
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I am not pursuing love or a relationship with anyone who cannot potentially be a mother to future children, so I don't see it as a big issue. If it turned out that the person I wanted to have kids with couldn't have them, that would be a very unfortunate thing, but I'm sure we would investigate other options.
But I would ideally like to find someone who is healthy & intelligent & attractive so that we might pass those things on to our kids.
One would hope that an adult that knows they want children, would have that conversation with their potential mate well before falling in love.
Perhaps categorize this as healthy boundaries while dating? Defining expectations and what each adult wants out of a relationship PRIOR to allowing themselves to bond over infatuation or lust alone.
That is a good answer and I agree. Compatibility between couples is important. I just think that sometimes, you don't choose who you fall in love with...
Yeah, if the two people are younger the likelihood of this is probably higher - makes for a tough situation... But having that spector looming over the relationship (where one person wants children and the other does not) is a recipe for disaster... Unless the person wanting children can truly be at peace letting go of having children.
Tough all around. Having true love is it's own blessing though, so I'd hope it could work.
I had a couple of friends, they were married for 11y, but eventually they did separate. He wanted kids, she didn't.
They met when they where like between 22/25.
He, soon after got divorced to her, married to another woman and had kids....3...
I met her one day and she was desolated....and seemed a bit regretful. Life is made of choices.
Everyone should pursue their dreams but I think is wise to have flexibility and have an open mind.
We never know what challenges life through at us.
Only a woman would ask such a question