No bother, on contrary, thanks for your comment as it does make me reflects from a different angle about a topic I am interested about.

seeing remorse as a reminder of who you are is a perspective I didn't think about until now, and yes I do agree, as we are also the sum of the actions that created that remorse.

I never try to blame others, there's no point, that's the way I avoid to have remorse in a certain way. I see blaming others for our failures is an alibi and counterproductive because we learn more from our own mistakes in my opinion.

About being smart, yeah I can't deny I am trying to, but not as a race or confront with someone else more than with myself and the one I was yesterday. I constantly face situation and have connection with people that clearly expose how much I don't know the second immediately after I thought I understood something new.. "the more I know, the more I understand how much I don't know" is a pharse that ecoes in my mind often, but yet ..

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would you tell me more about us being the sum of the actions?

blaming others is always an illusion, but I do that sometimes. when I see what I'm doing I can be responsible for what I'm feeling and see my projections.

and about being smart: when I'm talking about things I live and are important to me I usually don't try to win or to be the smartest person, but I see a lot of competition in me when I'm supressing myself somehow.

and if someone walks up and punches you who's fault? and if someone breaks into your house who"s fault. so blame sometimes isn't an illusion. I think you didn't mean this as written. absolutes... tread carefully.

oh, the punch or breaking into my house is certainly their responsibility, no excuses or justification can take that away.

what is blame to you? maybe what you call blame I'm calling responsibility.

There's no "to me", it's a word about someone being at fault.

Dictionary:

transitive verb To consider responsible for a misdeed, failure, or undesirable outcome.

transitive verb To find fault with; criticize.

transitive verb To place responsibility for (something).

noun The state of being responsible for a fault or error; culpability.

noun Censure; condemnation.

idiom (to blame) Deserving censure or disapproval; at fault.

idiom (to blame) Being the cause or source of something.

Are you talking about not criticizing others?

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