Imo if you feel like you're having too much money on LN, move it to the main-net and be done with it. The stacking and hodl should be on the main net.
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I do keep my hodl on chain, just thought i might improve privacy a bit more.
new addresses, never seen by an exchange, and DIY coinjoin is all you need. I only use L2's for fun. Like zapping.
Do you have to run a node to do your own coin join? I'm not too techy.
You don't need to "run" the node (permanently) but yes you should use BitcoinQT. Coin-control is built into Bitcoin, by design. Here's a link to a three video tutorial Fractal Encrypt made a few years ago.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GGZpm7ZSakk&ab_channel=FractalEncrypt