I'm starting to recognize that the tensions one feels within ourselves should probably be met with some equal level of sitting with it, rather than immediately reaching to resolve it in any way. The more tense a situation makes you feel, the more you should probably sit with it. It provides a space for you to grow, and if you do eventually decide to act, your choice is probably better than anything you might have done earlier.
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I may not be a master of many things, but indecisiveness is one that I can claim. It might take me months of considering outcomes, but I rarely regret my choices in the long run.
I think that's part of why meditation & prayer work too. It's not the actual process, it's the distraction. I have found for myself, that doing 2 things that engage different parts of my brain at the same time yields better clarity about unrelated unease than any breathing exercise ever could.... not until after much ruminating though lol
I mostly get impatient with myself when learning in depth things. I wish that cataloging process that happens was faster. Haha
i think that rumination itself is a sort of autonomic response that's still trying to resolve. It doesn't really get you anywhere no matter how long you do it, but ruminating eventually just tires you out to a point where you're able to work with it.
Legitimatelly sitting in it like you would in water that's just a little to hot or cold for your comfort is probably the way to go, but the water still needs to be in that zone where you can work with it 🙂
The key is to be able to regulate that temperature.
I think you're pointing to the general missmatch, especially with mindfulness meditation. Its not meant to resolve anything. Its giving you an external quiet to sit with that tension and feel out how you're being affected.
Maybe prayer (or throwing the I Ching) also offers a similar sequence. Not actually by initiating any miracle, but by priming you to notice opportunities, since its comforting and puts you in a state of "this will work out because its being taken care of"
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