Good afternoon, Nostr.

Thought of the day, and one that many in their mid-20s and early 30s probably won’t want to hear...

With tremendous respect for you, your potential, and your accomplishments: even the very best of you are currently at the peak of Mount Stupid. You're remarkable, but also dumb anf insecure as fuck, and you’re not fooling anyone but yourselves with the bravado.

I know I wasn’t any different. I thought the world was my oyster. I believed others were just too lazy, dumb, or not trying hard enough. I convinced myself that my problems were as hard, if not harder, than everyone else's, and that I was speaking "from experience".

But it was all bullshit. You know nothing, Jon Snow. Life will smash you to pieces , again and again... and again.... and again! It will show you that you’re not in control, you’re not that smart, most of what you believe is nonsense, and that not every problem can be solved just by trying harder or "strategising" with your supposedly superior primate brain.

The good news? This frees you from the illusion of control, from the anxiety to "perform", from the need to prove to everyone that you’re winning. It makes room for more kindness, not just towards others, but also towards yourself. With experience, some of that constant frustration you're dealing with (and clearly trying to hide behind a defensive sense of superiority and certainty) begins to fade. It gets better!

This isn’t a pass for older people to dismiss the young, by the way. If anything, it means we need to be extra patient and supportive as they stumble their way towards maturity. A journey not all that different from our own.

#GM #ThoughtOfTheDay #NostrRambles #HardTruths #OnLife

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I'm nearing 50 and can honestly say I know many people in their 40s that are also dumb and fuck and insecure.

I also know many in their 20s and 30s that are wide beyond their years.

Life is experiential, nothing more.

Agreed. My point isn't to equate age with experience. There are plenty of self-absorbed old men with the maturity of toddlers “ruling the world” out there.

Personally, I measure experience by patience, kindness, listening for the sake of listening, and a willingness to put yourself in other people’s shoes. It also shows in a more careful approach, less certainty, more appreciation for others regardless of their views or opinions, and a shift away from the urge to belong or impress.

True but I'd say hardship is the equaliser. Most of the skills you mentioned above can only be learnt through real hardship and challenges experiences.

I'd also say it's impossible to transition fully from a boy to a man without becoming a father. Anything before that is just playtime.

GA 🫂

#GM FREN HAVE A FABULOUS 🌟 DAY TODAY

Thank you for this!