After five years of marriage my wife and I are finally combining our finances.
First: any tips from others you have gone through this?
Second: now I have to grow a pair and nudge her down the Bitcoin rabbit hole.. she generally just doesn't want to hear about it. Any advice?
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Don't do that and bitcoinize at the same time
Just do all the stacking for her and let herdo her thing! My wife doesn't really care. I just explain that this "wallet" is our inflation resistant long term savings and that she can find the keys in XXX spot if something happens to me.
Here are my 2 sats
Two people with differing values (and that will be nearly everyone to some degree or other) can choose I think one of these three options:
1. to either agree on every value
2. to agree that values will be different in at least some dimension(s) and be happy with that
3. to allow for unresolved tension to build until some future explosion happens
If you guys choose the second option for the bitcoin dimension(s), then i think you’d want to outline what that looks like for you guys so that it’s clear what behavior each of you are ok with. First thing that comes to mind is a budget line item, which is probably part of saving for the future, that goes to bitcoin purchases. Buying more bitcoin than the budget would violate her expectations, and cause her stress. Same in reverse (that would be the option 3)
She will need to be flexible that your budget won’t quite fit in the normal mold, and you’ll need to be flexible that you’re going to spend more fiat, and save less bitcoin than you might like. Some things are more important than peak accumulation, and a happy wife should be one of them.
Or when it comes time, just say “what’s a bank account?” 😂
“It’s a place I my money and they don’t even keep it? They just say they’ll make things work if I need it back???”
Have always combined finances, keep some dirty fiat in your wallet. Never know when you need a little float that doesn’t depend on family finances.
Regular sit downs at the beginning to understand spending patterns. IE from sept to dec we double our spend, then January we get most back in bonuses and xmas gifts.
I stack the same amount every time my wife buys an indulgence
My wife takes care of the bills and expenses(fiat), i take care of the savings(btc). We allocate a certain amount each month, and i put 100% of my freelance to buying btc.
Followed 🤙
I've always been the breadwinner. When I got serious about buying Bitcoin I asked my wife how much I have to make for her to be comfortable and happy. To where we can take the trips she wants, have the savings she wants, and pay all the bills. She gave me a number, we negotiated a bit and now everything above that goes to Bitcoin. That was before 2020 so I imagine at some point she'll realize her number needs to go up with the rest of fiat.... But I'm looking forward to that conversation because it'll reinforce my position.
