I was thinking that I couldn't believe someone wouldn't like you, but then I thought that I actually don't think anyone can hate others. they always hate their own projections about others. Ultimately, they hate themselves.

But then I started seeing myself and something I'm struggling with came to light. I really think that when someone bothers me I should take a closer look within myself - the person is giving me a clue and an opportunity to feel something I wasn't ready to feel before. But when I bother someone, I get lost in guilt, maybe, and I can't leave their projection l them. There is something about me when I bother the other person, but that's not what the person felt or thought. I must stay with what I feel when I face the fact that I sometimes bother/irritate people.

thank you, noshole! it cleared my mind.