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Do you ever feel like the natural act of just being yourself, pisses the ever loving fuck out of people?

I was thinking that I couldn't believe someone wouldn't like you, but then I thought that I actually don't think anyone can hate others. they always hate their own projections about others. Ultimately, they hate themselves.

But then I started seeing myself and something I'm struggling with came to light. I really think that when someone bothers me I should take a closer look within myself - the person is giving me a clue and an opportunity to feel something I wasn't ready to feel before. But when I bother someone, I get lost in guilt, maybe, and I can't leave their projection l them. There is something about me when I bother the other person, but that's not what the person felt or thought. I must stay with what I feel when I face the fact that I sometimes bother/irritate people.

thank you, noshole! it cleared my mind.

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pollyanna 1y ago

Not even when I write can I leave other people's projections with them 😬

Noshole 1y ago

That’s because we’re all so connected

Noshole 1y ago

That’s exactly how I am! Logically, I understand the mirror thing (people get angry when you show them something they do that they don’t like), but it doesn’t stop the guilty feeling like I did something wrong to hurt someone

pollyanna 1y ago

one thing I realized is that I feel angry with the other person when I bother her 😬 I'm always trying to please everyone (I've changed a lot in this matter, but that's still here) and I'm usually successful, cause I'm always trying to pay a lot of attention to people, so my ego gets hurt when I can't - and it's worse when I do the opposite. if I wasn't trying to please the person, maybe I wouldn't do something that bothered her or if it did, I wouldn't be so disappointed when she was bothered. I guess that's an invite to be even more who I am. and that always starts with feeling what comes. but anger is something I hide a lot (and I realized that before I try to please people usually I felt angry but didn't let me feel.

maybe I'm saying obvious things, and I think there's something I'm not seeing, but I'll leave it here.

Noshole 1y ago

I know what you mean. A lot of times the simplest notions are the most difficult to grasp and implement 🫂

atyh 1y ago

This is not always true.

Sometimes, you can not like the way a person thinks about the world, and how they treat others, and simply not want to be around them. 🤷

But when it’s a sudden unexplainable dislike, a lot of times it’s projection.

Noshole 1y ago

Yeah, but disagreeing with or being disliked by those types isn’t really difficult to deal with.