Do you ever feel like the natural act of just being yourself, pisses the ever loving fuck out of people?
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Yes. In fact I’d wager that’s more than half of the people I meet. I have a word for them… “morons”.
Oh hell the fuck yes. AND I hope I’m irritating their souls, that means I’m rustling the demons in there because I am BLESSED🛐🧘🏾♀️💅🏾
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People have treated me like that my whole life. Fuck them! Those who love drama cannot comprehend those of us that are stoic.
Once in a while, I fall for the drama and participate. I have been doing much better later with the stoicism 🫂
People can't stand that I don't value trifling rat race bullshit. Had to dump a longtime friend because of that
It’s not always easy. Like a lot of people have the don’t give a fuck attitude. I don’t have that yet. It’s hard to end relationships. It’s also tempting to people-please, which I’m still working on
So long as their lack of fucksgiving comes from a place of strength, such as being comfortable with who they are. What I see most of the time is that it comes from nihilism or a desperate attempt to look hard, and I don't envy those people at all. The latter is a facade and the former takes time to cultivate
I'm still shedding some people-pleasing tendencies myself. I used to strive for being as likable as can be, but eventually I realized that I have expensive taste in people lol. Easier to be myself and let that serve as a filter. Can't put a price on serenity
Yeah it’s weird. The older I get, the more I realize I have to get more comfortable with the idea of some people not liking me. No ass licking or apologizing attached 😂
Perhaps sometimes. I'm rather quiet in real life. If anything, people might be a bit more perplexed than anything.
and this makes me happies
I want to be where you are mentally, eventually 😂
it's a brutal road, that you have ahead of you
you have to suffer a lot to stop giving a fuck about other people and being happy with being alone
you don't have that alone part of the problem tho, i think? puzzles is a keeper i think, you certainly seem like fun
Yeah that’s true. It could be way worse without a teammate
you have endo... i have t2 diabeetus... i think it balances out
last week i had too much carbs and i felt like hell and only am starting to feel better today
i hope you find a way to get around needing to be sterilised, that would be a real shame, i think that good people should be reproduced
I was thinking that I couldn't believe someone wouldn't like you, but then I thought that I actually don't think anyone can hate others. they always hate their own projections about others. Ultimately, they hate themselves.
But then I started seeing myself and something I'm struggling with came to light. I really think that when someone bothers me I should take a closer look within myself - the person is giving me a clue and an opportunity to feel something I wasn't ready to feel before. But when I bother someone, I get lost in guilt, maybe, and I can't leave their projection l them. There is something about me when I bother the other person, but that's not what the person felt or thought. I must stay with what I feel when I face the fact that I sometimes bother/irritate people.
thank you, noshole! it cleared my mind.
Not even when I write can I leave other people's projections with them 😬
That’s because we’re all so connected
That’s exactly how I am! Logically, I understand the mirror thing (people get angry when you show them something they do that they don’t like), but it doesn’t stop the guilty feeling like I did something wrong to hurt someone
one thing I realized is that I feel angry with the other person when I bother her 😬 I'm always trying to please everyone (I've changed a lot in this matter, but that's still here) and I'm usually successful, cause I'm always trying to pay a lot of attention to people, so my ego gets hurt when I can't - and it's worse when I do the opposite. if I wasn't trying to please the person, maybe I wouldn't do something that bothered her or if it did, I wouldn't be so disappointed when she was bothered. I guess that's an invite to be even more who I am. and that always starts with feeling what comes. but anger is something I hide a lot (and I realized that before I try to please people usually I felt angry but didn't let me feel.
maybe I'm saying obvious things, and I think there's something I'm not seeing, but I'll leave it here.
I know what you mean. A lot of times the simplest notions are the most difficult to grasp and implement 🫂
This is not always true.
Sometimes, you can not like the way a person thinks about the world, and how they treat others, and simply not want to be around them. 🤷
But when it’s a sudden unexplainable dislike, a lot of times it’s projection.
Yeah, but disagreeing with or being disliked by those types isn’t really difficult to deal with.