Single men this is for you.

You want to grow? You want to take life by the horns and do great things? Start a family. I always wanted to but found a lot of other things to occupy my time, reasons not to commit to a monogamous marriage with a woman, not truly understanding that I would never get that time back. Selfishly but unknowingly also depriving my parents of grandchildren.

But, when I finally did, I had no thought it could be this good. Men you need to experience this, with as many or as few children as God gives you. Specifically men I’m speaking to because you don’t know what you do not know (ask me how I know). How then can you live without some very important details? Future generations don’t just appear. Get busy and lay down your life for your family. It’s counter culture to declare but it really is the best.

Bless your family with children and grandchildren. AND don’t take for granted you and your wife can even bear children. There are surprising number of us that can not, no matter what is tried, so don’t assume you can always have children. I’ve seen this and it’s real. If you’re a young couple trying to have children let me know and I will pray for you.

Life isn’t perfect and neither is having children. As a dad of a blended family with both biological and adopted kids I have some experience, and that’s why I’m writing this for you.

Men, get off zero. Start a family (IMHO have as many kids as you can; yes I’m an advocate for a large family. But, like bitcoin you don’t usually see it at first.)

Get out of your own way. That and read Men and Marriage by George Gilder. Great book to drive this point in ways I could never.

Ladies, you’re welcome.

Peace and love