Best book Iâve ever read to try to understand what itâs like to be a man - âKeys to the Kingdomâ. Didnât know whether to laugh out loud or cry in shame when it described how women tend to treat men like hairy, misbehaving women. When they are simply being single-focussed providers. Guilty as charged. Will try to do better.
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Probably the most powerful recommendation Iâve ever received. Thank you, nostr:nprofile1qyx8wumn8ghj7cnjvghxjmcpz4mhxue69uhk2er9dchxummnw3ezumrpdejqqgxpnjhyth870v94glvux9kng3h6dpwe6hvjmg93plcggvafg0nlucth0fze.
I should be preparing for my talks next week, but this book wonât let me breathe. Page after page, I find myself thinking: If only I had known this earlier.
But maybe⌠maybe now is exactly the right time. Itâs never too late to change everything.
Who is the author?
Alison Armstrong. And the follow up book the Queenâs Code was the icing on the cake. Iâve got so much to learn. It never ends.
Thank you đđť The learning never ends and will check them out as well
Would be interested to know if they affect you as powerfully as they did me.
Now thatâs going to be an interesting question to answer especially since as a man I will be reading with a different perspective but will definitely share my learnings once I read the book. Should start in a week or so after I am done with current reads
I think itâs directed at women, but no harm in trying. It might be soothing. To finally be understood rather than vilified for doing what nature intended.
Indeed and thatâs what I am curious to find out; the key ideas that the author felt women donât understand about men. Being understood is definitely therapeutic in a big way
Interestingly enough, the author apparently wanted to write a book when she thought men were just pigs, then started doing her research to prove just this, only to discover the opposite to be true.
Funny but interesting how the truth reveals itself and kudos to her for changing her mind after seeing truth for what it is. Most would have ignored the facts and carried on with original idea
I had 25 years of having to endure constant âDonât you work?â âArenât you bored?â as I dedicated my time and energy to bringing up my children, so I know how it feels. Itâs now with two fiat titles that I get called a âpower womanâ. Itâs bollocks. I was a power woman when I had 4 little ones. But noone saw that. Much less gave my work any value. Yet there is no job harder. More constant. More relentless. More difficult. More rewarding. More vital.
Thank you for acknowledging that. I've raised four sons and it's shocking how they are treated and portrayed in our culture.
Silver lining: it makes for good self-deprecating humor, e.g. when a woman notices me acting immaturely and asks me my age, I say "male" and usually that disarms the situation somewhat when I get a chuckle in response.
I've never read the book, but based on your post, I wonder if it delves into the discrepancy in the number of crossovers in the female corpus collosum versus the number of crossovers in the male corpus collosum. Women have more so women are better at "multitasking" whereas men are better geared to leverage their prototypical strength, speed, and size advantages and narrow their focus to hunting one animal to bring home meat.
This sort of explains why the natural home work split developed. Men were out hunting because we are well suited to that task, especially when considering the effects that testosterone has on 3D mapping and how that applies to projectiles for hunting.
Since the men were out leveraging their strengths, it was up to the women to attend to a lot of things around the homestead like the garden and livestock and children and laundry and cooking, etc.
As the world changed, the need for that type of division of labor became less and less. The question that the "trad wife" movement seems to be exploring is whether or not we should have deviated from that course in the first place.
It is certainly interesting to consider biological sexual dichotomies as offering insights into how societal roles evolved over time though.
Pretty much in a nut shell. I think we were mistaken in believing we can overturn thousands of years of evolution in one to two generations. Ended up with everyone being miserable, pretty much.
Incredible author, thank you for sharing
