Oh no, there is no man hating here. I love men and masculinity is fucking beautiful. Imbalanced masculinity becomes oppressive and tyrannical. In the same way imbalanced femininity is emotionally drunk and collapsed. Men and women can express both things. My particular area of interest and experience is hyper-masculinsation. Key word being "hyper". And that's super interesting re the sleep paralysis. Time deffo bends in the in-between.
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Okay, good answer. It was partly that I just wanted to see if you actually thought masculinity is tyrannical - there are people, even men, who think that. A weak masculinity can fall into that, but so can a weak femininity. And men have an instinct for objects - you can see little boys hyper focusing on a toy. That instinct develops into materialism because we want one thing to be one thing. Women have more of an instinct for connections - one thing is not one thing. Maturity for men is seeing other perspectives ; maturity for women is not needing to ask permission. Of course, there could also be boys with more of the yin energy and girls more yang - its the balance that counts, not the starting point.
But these observations are easy... It sounds like maybe you're on the next step - the actual how of getting men to be more balanced. So umm... How do you do that?
I've been wondering how to answer this question succinctly. For men (and for the masculine current in men and women) the lane switch is coming out of mind and descending into the body. Into the heart and for women, also into the womb. It is a process that is enormously simple in one sense and yet there is the most astronomical amount of complexity that prevents that from happening, because the mind is complex. Because all the programming and complexes and narratives set up especially in the first 5 years of being alive are complex. and messy as fuck. At the core of it there is a presence - a way of being - that is so devoid of all mental filtering and narrative, the mind body soul system just... balances. Naturally and automatically. It's about cultivating that presence and dealing with everything that blocks it.