Im going to tell you how I handle women in my life regarding a sour mood after rough day.
First, I try to assess whether they are venting (wanting me to listen)
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Are they asking for advice.
—As a man, I tend to try and fix things. I have found that when women bitch, they usually just want to bitch.
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Great viewpoint. I need to get better at this too.
The struggle I have is that I don't want to reinforce any limiting beliefs they might have.
Often they're wanting to play the victim/judge & I feel like they're wanting me to affirm this.
I find it very difficult to lie even to make someone feel better.
The other challenge I have is simply following along with their story. It's like women speak another language sometimes.
Knowing that we just want to bitch most of the time would save a lot of time 😂
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i don’t think my wife has ever asked for advice.
it’s always venting 🤦♂️
if it’s a problem i can solve, i just take care of it, no need in telling her what the solution is.
skip the middle man 🤣
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“Do you want me to help you or just hold you?”
9 out of ten times I would just want to be held/listened to.
Sound too easy when you put it like that. Haha
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The one big takeaway that I got from reading "Men are Mars, women are from Venus" was exactly this dynamic.
Women like to be able to share their worries without necessarily wanting a solution.
Men on the other hand, immediately put on the Mr. Fixit hat and go about seeking and offering a solution to the problem.
Wisdom you now have.
