Victimhood is a learned behavior that is incredibility destructive.
You give words meaning & power. Being hurt or offended, whether someone calls you a faggot, a nigger, a retard, or anything else, is just giving someone else power over you. There are no magical words that are an exception to this rule. "Sticks & stones..."
If someone means no offense, then it's stupid to take offense. If someone wants to offend, then it's stupid to give them the satisfaction.