Oh, self-esteem, what a sham you are!

The concept seems simple enough. Think highly of yourself, and you'll feel fantastic! But wait, when you have low self-esteem, you feel terrible. So, it must be that thinking highly of yourself is the key to happiness! But hold on, because this logic is just plain absurd. Yet, we've been bombarded with this pop-psych gibberish for over 50 years, so it's no wonder people have bought into it.

Here's the truth: if you're feeling crummy about yourself, it's probably because your conscience is giving you a reality check. You've messed up, and deep down, you know you don't deserve to feel all warm and fuzzy.

But the self-esteem fanatics insist: cut yourself some slack, relax, forgive yourself. What a crock!

When you've done something wrong, pretending you're a saint won't fix anything. In fact, it'll just make everything worse. You'll end up suppressing your conscience, and that requires some heavy-duty anesthesia. You'll find yourself drowning that pesky inner voice with addictions, anything from hard drugs to workaholism. But the truth remains: you can't ignore that voice forever.

So, let's call self-esteem what it really is: self-delusion. You should feel good about yourself when you are, in fact, a good person. And you become a good person through good deeds. Someone scamming others shouldn't be strutting around like they're on top of the world.

So, let's kick the self-esteem charade to the curb and embrace a new mantra: actions speak louder than words. Forget about coddling yourself with empty platitudes, and focus on being the best version of yourself through meaningful actions. Strive for character, virtue, and self-reflection built on a foundation of doing, not feeling. Say goodbye to the self-esteem hoax and say hello to a life built on real accomplishments.

Your conscience will thank you.

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I found that people that come across with very high self esteem/confidence are usually the most fragile under the hood.

I think that the most important thing is this regard is that when you make a mistake that you make amends for it IMMEDIATELY. Don't let it stew under the surface and give you a real reason to feel bad about yourself. Have the courage to fix the problem at first chance.

This and also the weight that's lifted off your shoulders when you accept the free gift which is forgiveness through Jesus Christ our lord

Or, if you’re feeling crummy about yourself, go create value.

Well said, Jimmy.

well meant, but only partially true and therefore misleading.

if you focus on action only, this becomes a bypass in it self - you create workaholism etc.

the root cause of emotional pain/low self-esteem is lack of emotional processing skills.

if you don't solve the issues on the emotional level, you will repeat the destructive patterns in the external over and over again.

ONLY, if you process the unresolved emotions you can embody the lessons that these emotions are here to teach you, which THEN automatically lead to HEALTHY ACTION.

that's why hypnotherapeutic methods are way more efffective than cognitive behavioural therapy.