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It may be an age thing or geographical but for me personally 50 and dragged up through south London anything other than a rock hard exterior would have seen me labeled a poof and then more than likely get my teeth knocked out.

Being nice was seen as weakness I’ve had a few ‘kickins‘ for that. Most memorably with my roommates whilst serving with the British Army.
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MAstr 2y ago

Yeah,

fully understand your point.

This is for sure geographical.

Beeing nice as a man always comes with the burden of beeing able to hit them harder if they don't want the nice way. So swiching in your #spiraldynamics personalities from your green mode to the red within milliseconds is a good tool to have then ;-)

It is a part of empathy to counter other people in the way fits the best to their personality.

Meaning, it is convinient for somebody that lives the red personality to be just directly punched by you without a foreplay of beeing nice. This doesn't mean you're not.

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realjode 2y ago

Agree, I don’t do punching anymore though, to big and strong, easily kill a man with a punch to the head. Much prefer the gently put to ground and have a nap mode.