Yeah,

fully understand your point.

This is for sure geographical.

Beeing nice as a man always comes with the burden of beeing able to hit them harder if they don't want the nice way. So swiching in your #spiraldynamics personalities from your green mode to the red within milliseconds is a good tool to have then ;-)

It is a part of empathy to counter other people in the way fits the best to their personality.

Meaning, it is convinient for somebody that lives the red personality to be just directly punched by you without a foreplay of beeing nice. This doesn't mean you're not.