When the content of your nostr profile, personal notes on your phone or note pads could get you fired, put in jail and/or have some serious relational issues means you want these items to remain private, because you think critically, push boundaries, ask yourself questions and push back on orthodoxy.
You do not share this content widely for this reason, it does not make you a bad person, you don’t say everything you think, but because at times you want to be able to reflect back on passing thoughts they warrant noting, so you note (and other stuff). This process CANNOT be villainised, censored or even frowned upon, this is being human, this is being private, this is being personally sovereign.
What separates us from the monsters is we have these thoughts, and choose not to act on them. You are not a good person if you never have a bad thought, you are maybe just dull. Instead we are able to have these thoughts and appreciate why we may have them.
The ability to transact privately is just as important, if I cannot buy drugs for fear of getting caught, I am not good for not taking drugs, I am scared. Rather, if I can buy drugs but don’t choose not to, or even buy them and not use them, my behaviour reflect my own choices, not by decree.