i do think this is a point worth focusing on
gaps
like hey our values arent even that gappy but, for example: you are very value-led and im not, im value-casual
and ~that's~ hella gappy like a big mattering as far as possible longterm compounding issues
im only valueled during the workweek
valueoff weekends or no dice
etc etc
people are not disposable
and yet
what do you do if your partner has decided to find yeti evidence
and you cant buy in on that
and so they are very lonely in their yeti passion
baby im not trying to police your cryptids im saying visiting loch ness is more approachable logistically and maybe building up to the yeti thing
is that patronizing
maybe
idk
but im interested re: woke gap
in all ways that can be applied
is it worse to feel lonely about your partner not sharing your yeti passion
or is it worse to feel like they are just humoring you and being kind to you like you have a tbi from being hit with a brick
i think i would prefer the former but being kind is also really nice so maybe a combo idk
something like: dont you dare lie to me pretending to be into shit im into but also be so kind about my shit and how you go about not liking it
i dont think anyone likes to be belittled and i also think most people want a relationship based on honesty actually cos if you arent sharing the truth of the matter, ya dont have much
and i think there is a very big difference between paradigm and odds
like my world paradigm is predicated on few get a Phd in global health for nefarious reasons
usaid employed many people
many pro-social people trying to feed people actually
odds is about risk and longshots
like yo what if i dug here in this town for treasure
⚠️ God has said in the Quran:
🔴 { Say, "O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful." ( 39:53 )}
📖Quran
