if users don't have to think about relays upfront, they'll probably never think about them. that's why i believe every nostr client should ask for the relays to connect to on first launch.
defaults are centralizing, so many people won't change them.
how you make onboarding as smooth as possible is a matter of good UI. nostr:nprofile1qqs84k6jpsav0jmdeqjn2zxlpnsajaw6f8l0m2d4e9t8gjsyn53s4nspzamhxue69uhhyetvv9ujuumfv9khxarj9e3k7mgpz3mhxue69uhhyetvv9ujuerpd46hxtnfduq3vamnwvaz7tmjv4kxz7fwdehhxarj9e3xzmnyhat8ky seems to be doing an amazing job with 0xchat lite. users should be *aware* of what is going behind the scenes, they deserve to know, let's give them free will.
making decisions for other people is always bad unless they're not able to, and this is not rocket science, everyone uses the internet nowadays and has some idea of how it works. btw, nostr:nprofile1qqsyvrp9u6p0mfur9dfdru3d853tx9mdjuhkphxuxgfwmryja7zsvhqpz9mhxue69uhkummnw3ezuamfdejj7qgswaehxw309ahx7um5wghx6mmd9uq3wamnwvaz7tmkd96x7u3wdehhxarjxyhxxmmd9ukfdvuv are any UI changes in that regard coming to outbox amethyst?