What I’m saying is that while yes fertility issues exist and have always existed many fertile women are simply opting out of motherhood. And while i agree it’s wrong to shame people with legitimate medical issues. Childlessness by choice is not immune to criticism. Male or female.
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No. That’s what you’re saying now and I agree to a certain extent, but I do not agree that every woman who is biologically ready to conceive is able to achieve the level of responsibility, selflessness, and financial stability that is required to have a child. I don’t think the purpose of life is to simply create children. Anyone can do that, but to put in all the resources to raise a child well is the true meaning. There are many women who become mothers who probably shouldn’t have.
I didn’t have a good mother. I’m still happy to be alive. I don’t think motherhood needs to be some kind of master’s thesis where you turn in a completed work of perfection. It’s ok for it to be messy and chaotic and to do it poorly. Even bad mothers are still important.
Opting out of motherhood is a very complex decision.
Outside of both of you misrepresenting the real statistics...
1. It's difficult to find a male counterpart to achieve this goal.
2. Some women (& men) are mentally volatile to the point they don't feel fit to be mothers.
3. Family support behind the woman can be lacking which could deter them & this is a natural instinct - it takes a village.
4. Some people live in a terrible location, environment can change you big time - maybe if they moved out of mega cities they would be more willing.
Its fairly uncommon to find someone outside of this purview who has a willing husband, simply opting out.