>I don't see why a beginner should have to deal with that unless they want to.
I think it's a more fundamental question of why is this beginner even here? If not for the relays? Relays are what make Nostr Nostr. Fiatjaf calls them Nostr's superpower, and I think he's right. If beginners are not coming specifically for a network that's built this way, and one that explicitly gives them these novel choices, then what are they coming for? The memes?
I see it like an electric car manufacturer saying let's ease people into the fact that these cars are electric over the course of a test drive. Okay but you won't get people signing up for the test drive in the first place.