No amount of technical prowess will help here. What's needed is someone who has a clue how the internet works.
The fact is that Nostr was designed to operate over the clearnet, and over clearnet jourisdictions, people have zero freedom and right to post the media that they want to without censorship.
The idea that Nostr should store both notes AND media in a decentralized and censorship resistent way is complete BS, and we need developers who actually understand this fact. Nostr should have unmoderated decentralized text based notes, but heavily centralized heavily moderated media servers.
Can you believe some people actually want to set things up so that Nostr media can be hosted over Tor servers? I swear that developers are actively trying to convince state powers to destrpy Nostr.