🫂 I refer to these situations as a consequence of freedom. Taking the responsibility of your own actions trades off the idea of controlling the actions of others. The more public you want to be, the more public you become. And vice versa. That's why hermits live in the woods... the self sacrifice of freedoms for maximum privacy.

I empathize with your point, but nostr has no bouncers at the door. "The Noshole" would be a great name for a private group though😅 Maybe that could help you find a happy medium and you could be your own bouncer?