I taught the homeschool co-op kids how to solder. They said things like, "I've never built anything before."

That's actually pretty disturbing to hear, considering they're mostly middle and highschool-aged.

They're all from large families, usually 5+ kids. I think it raises an interesting point about how much energy parents have to spread around, and whether the kids may be getting shortchanged a little. They're obviously well-educated, but are lacking in general life experience. One kid had literally never used a screwdriver at 14 years old.

So we talk a lot about having lots of kids and repopulating the world, but you have to make sure your 8 kids don't have to call an only child to change a flat tire, also. Maybe the trick is to be 10 times more strict about devices, TV, etc. so they can at least get outside and break something occasionally.

Just random thoughts.

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Good work. Keep it up.

I don't work with kids, but having worked with new graduates... Not that different

Yeah...similar experience with adults. They're food if shit really kicks off.

I know some grown men who dont know how to use simple tools.

These kids' dads...

Urban or suburban?

Because this is rare in rural areas.

Solid observations.

I think once you go above 4 kids, the older ones start legitimately helping to raise the young ones cause the parents attention gets too stretched.

It really comes down to what the parents are into and whether the kids are interested in that at all. When I build things on the homestead only one of my kids reliably comes to “help” and try to learn. Same with the garden, only one has any interest in helping my wife when she’s out there. They’re still young, so we let them choose their own adventures and don’t force anything on them

When they’re teenagers there will be non-negotiable life skills that they need a baseline knowledge of to go out in the world with

Screens certainly play a negative role these days if the parents allow them to be a babysitter. That’s a shortsighted approach and somewhat of a Faustian bargain if you ask me

Some “free” time for the parents when the kids are young- but much less focus, interest in the little things of life, and deep creativity to entertain themselves and play freely for the kids.

When I see kids in a grocery store cart or at a restaurant with a screen in front of their face I feel so bad for that kid, cause they are getting almost zero data points from the real world around them

Funny you bring up the parents' interests. We were just talking about how they seem to do church social stuff 24/7, but the kids aren't really into it. They all go to the phones as soon as they get bored.

But when you get them on something new and interesting...better watch out. I want to get a few of them building Bitaxes.

We caught ourselves not teaching enough skills to our sons. Too often we would just fix something ourselves because it was easier than taking the time to teach. That was a big mistake. We ended up paying for our eldest son to take two classes taught by a plumber friend of ours that taught how to change the oil, and tires, and a few other things on a car, how to do maintenance on a lawn mower. how to install a sink and a faucet. How to install a light switch and a light fixture. How to repair and install drywall. How to maintain a bicycle, and a bunch more. Half of it we could have taught him if we'd only taken the time.

We did better on household chores like laundry, cooking, cleaning, money management, etc.

We definitely need to be intentional on training our kids and take the extra time to train them, even if that is watching a youtube video to figure our how to do something we don't know how to do.

You got it done, though, so good for you. That's a pretty reasonable way to give the children the experience if your time is consumed with work or life or whatever. I don't think outsourcing life experience is bad or shameful in any way. It's basically just tech school.

Now you have me wondering if I can get paid for this kind of stuff...