very soberly it is pretty important to know how you are treated when the power is in other hands
if it isnt ok, doesnt feel ok, feels abusive, sucks a lot, that is fair grounds to bounce immediately
cos it will be, over a lifetime
whether that's cos of an accident, the hospital, an illness, or otherwise
it will be, and when it is, cos of bad news, or an emergency, that is a horrible time to find out for the first time, that your partner is abusive with
power
the more you practice, the more you talk about it post mortem, the more secure you are, they are, we are, it is
to choose not that, like can't risk that
means brittle shit is here
that needs to be shored up
or it isnt gonna survive much stress
again, this can be the most mild stuff in all this world
can you massage my feet on the couch, can i massage yours
did i feel small or hurt or weird about how you treated me during that, was it thankless task feeling, did i hate it, why
if shit cant even be examined to that level, ngmi, would argue not even in a relationship actually, cos relationships, including platonic ones, are reciprocal, generous, giving
if all this sounds too mundane and as a thought exercise you know it would be fine,
no you dont
that is bypass
you dont know until you are physically actually irl doing these things
if you think all people dont have a velociraptor baggins inside that can be triggered, that the answer if they do is repress and avoid, ngmi
gotta work ~with~
global crises local crises will only increase in the coming years
what you dont do with your partner will come out on your kids or pets or elderly parents
and that's a really terrible time to discover the monster within
and cant ever take that back
