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if you need help with power dynamics, go get help, there is help, plenty of

this much time post rapture: if you cant switch, if you would rather die than literally try the other way which is so much fun, as fun, before switching back to switch again, sorry to say, that's terminal and ngmi

campusalot 1mo ago

translating more universal and g-rated

if you live in a household with your partner, spouse, gf, bf, fwb whatever

should be effortless to play queen for a day

if you say: she's queen every day

then your assignment is king for a day

and it should be equally effortless

if that is literally impossible, if instead you would rather write a thesis on how he doesnt want that actually, or she doesnt, like she literally cant or he cant, will start shaking crying throwing up

well, you can write it, but im not reading it til at least 2040 and good luck til then to you and your relationship

could never be me

need way more adaptability in literally light hearted playtime to feel safe actually

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campusalot 1mo ago

very soberly it is pretty important to know how you are treated when the power is in other hands

if it isnt ok, doesnt feel ok, feels abusive, sucks a lot, that is fair grounds to bounce immediately

cos it will be, over a lifetime

whether that's cos of an accident, the hospital, an illness, or otherwise

it will be, and when it is, cos of bad news, or an emergency, that is a horrible time to find out for the first time, that your partner is abusive with

power

campusalot 1mo ago

the more you practice, the more you talk about it post mortem, the more secure you are, they are, we are, it is

to choose not that, like can't risk that

means brittle shit is here

that needs to be shored up

or it isnt gonna survive much stress

campusalot 1mo ago

again, this can be the most mild stuff in all this world

can you massage my feet on the couch, can i massage yours

did i feel small or hurt or weird about how you treated me during that, was it thankless task feeling, did i hate it, why

if shit cant even be examined to that level, ngmi, would argue not even in a relationship actually, cos relationships, including platonic ones, are reciprocal, generous, giving

campusalot 1mo ago

if all this sounds too mundane and as a thought exercise you know it would be fine,

no you dont

that is bypass

you dont know until you are physically actually irl doing these things

campusalot 1mo ago

if you think all people dont have a velociraptor baggins inside that can be triggered, that the answer if they do is repress and avoid, ngmi

gotta work ~with~

global crises local crises will only increase in the coming years

what you dont do with your partner will come out on your kids or pets or elderly parents

campusalot 1mo ago

and that's a really terrible time to discover the monster within

and cant ever take that back