I'm not suggesting everyone is capable of taking custody of someone's funds, or even that they'd want to, but at what point is it acceptable to stop suggesting the "next new cool custodial wallet", and instead offer to host friend's and families' funds?
Suppose I can flip the question another way...
Does every serious self-hoster that does this for more than as a mere hobby need to become a large public service entity?
Funding immediate friends and family I'm sure happens (I do it), but there should be a #WebOfTrust model (of sorts, perhaps more verifiable) where friends of friends try out some self-hoster's solution. I think if done and decentralized enough, no mint/lightning pool would become big enough worthy of a #rugpull. And even if it happened once, it would become costly to keep trying to do so over time. Further, some form of monetisation could also encourage honesty.
I think this is relevant now due to the emergence of #ecash mints, but I've always held it as an important topic during the earlier lightning days, and I think it's the lack of consideration that made #cashu as an example be created to solve so many custodial problems, many of which perhaps didn't need to be there in the first place.