Wonder if anyone managed to make 0xChat Lite work, I just can't

I install the app, create a new nsec with Amber, login with Amber. all good so far

Apparently I need to create something call a circle (a guest this is a comms channel), fine, for that need to add a relay... Why not to have 0xchat by default for the clueless newbs, fine, I add the 0xchat relay, great it loads.

Now I click on the plus sign to add an user yo chat with...

Crap, search for my usual suspects I follow that may be testing as well, none shows, okay, I create another profile with my work mobile.

Done, now I search my npub...

Failure, every time, both sides, this is what I get:

and when I confirm:

Am I doing something wrong?