😂🫂 well thanks for the vote of confidence
Discussion
I tend to think pressure and pretense when it comes to this sort of stuff often make things worse, not better.
The more important skillset is what happens when you come up against disappointment. Error corrections.
A good first date question: what makes you a difficult person to live with?
You can gauge how well people actually know themselves. The people that say effectively nothing probably has no idea who they are. And those are the people that are very difficult to error correct with.
I'm of the mind the the success of centuries of arranged marriages wasn't so much founded on parental abilities to pick just right, but the virtues of perseverence, humility, patience, wisdom, gratitude, and perhaps others, which got people out of the mindset of "are YOU really the best one for me?"
There's something to be said for being selective but I think overemphasis on it removes a ton of responsibility from the equation.
And yea, I get that arranged marriages also were held together by some other pressures, some of which we can be glad no longer apply. But taking the strengths that were built by that adversity even when the adversity is gone can help with perspective towards achieving a bit of harmony.
V well made points!