I hate to say it

But the daughter has some antisocial disorder traits

And for her 15th bday

Her mom spent more money and attention on the toddler

She got a new baby and puts all her personality in being his mom

Her friends didn't even act like they were there for her

They were just there for the party

All of this shit is what leads up to a kid snapping

When he (the toddler) was a few months old

I was babysitting

She looked at him (her baby brother) with hate

She hit him with a pillow a few times

Kinda aggressively

But it was ok

I told her to stop

So she hit me with the pillow

I made her stop

Then later

She knocked him off the couch into the floor to hurt him and tried to blame me because I looked away

But I saw her

And I had pillows all over the floor just in case he fell off the couch

And she tried to push him past the pillows

He was crying but ok

I questioned her

She just deflected

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She went from being openly violent to more reserved and calm on the outside

Holding all of her emotions back

On the surface

It's impressive

She just blocks out all of the noise

But she holds it all inside

She's got the rage in her

And when it comes out

Well I'm worried

In reality

She probably needs therapy

But I guess there's a hope that therapy can be avoided

I know her mom doesn't notice

I'm too close to it

And all that makes it harder

Her dad left immediately

She has abandonment issues

Her mom got with a POS and that's the only "dad" she knew for a while

Her "step dad"

He was on meth

He stole the mom's mother's Day gifts from her kids

They banned together to get her a gold necklace

He pawned it

He beat her

He beat her for me stopping by with my friends I was out with because they all happened to be male

The daughter saw all this

She saw her mom let it happen

I think it fucked her up

She saw my part

Which was... Aggressive...

The "step dad" is dead now

(Cause unknown - long dramatic story)

Before he died I cornered him and made him cry and shook him down taking everything in his pockets and called it a grief tax for being a POS and beating my friend and still trying to take advantage of her kindness and ignorance

And... The kids saw me as... Something... Idk... But something.

It's possible I fucked them kids up too

Idk

Terrible context

Josh was the POS and the excuse for a weird crusade

He got involved with bad people

He was tied up and beaten and "tortured"

And given a high dose of drugs after a few days of being deprived

And some people went nuts

The woman that pimped out her kids dropped them off at my friend's house and they made her daughter more....... Crazy... For lack of better phrasing.

All these kids were exposed to a lot of insanity

On one hand

You gotta wonder if they're acceptant of murder via drugs

It was a reoccurring theme

Extra note:

Thoughts ---

Don't compare yourself to this mom

This is less than the bare minimum

When you feel like a bad mom

Don't say

At least I'm better than her

I took her kids in and tried to help them

Yupp you did

But ..... I don't wanna tell you what to do... But I know you can do better

Side note:

She's gotten into D&D

Other players are concerned with her behavior

She keeps pushing them off of things and trying to kill them instead of working with them

She plays with a few different groups (more than me) but I've talked to the GMs wife

And it makes sense

IRL I made an excuse for her and I know that's not necessarily productive

I'm sure she's going to need to talk more

Maybe to a specialist

I'd honestly hate to see her thrown into the system or be labeled so young

I'm sure there's something that can be done

This might be a problem

Too afraid she might turn into a psychopath

Extra side note:

The other night she told me a random memory

And I had forgotten about it

But I remember

We were celebrating

Me her mom and some friends

After she was put to bed

At her grandma's house

And she came out and said

Mom I need a drink

And I looked at her and said

No you're too young to drink

And it kinda stuck with me because I was always the one to tell her don't you do the shit we do

Don't you dare drink or smoke

And now she's a teenager approaching adulthood still saying no to alcohol, cigarettes and drugs.

She listens to me....

I don't want to say that in front of her mom / my friend

Because that shit makes her really proud

She feels like she's raising her kid right

Based on the behavior

And if she assumes that I've played a bigger role

It'll hurt her

However... The other stuff... That's between her mom and the internet...

When she started playing Roblox I said it's full of predators

Her mom was concerned but did nothing

After all kinds of creepy people reached out

All I can say is

I'm glad more people know ts full of pedis and weirdos

And that's how it goes

Her mom gets concerned

But no real action is taken

So the only thing to do is to have a real conversation with this kid and make her understand that internet people are just terminally online psychos

I'm all for trans rights but when adult men identifying as women are trying to talk to very young girls they met on a forum for kids

I got a problem

The Republican parents don't know

And I'm more left leaning now

And all of this apparently matters

But idgaf

There's no reason you need to groom this girl

behind her parents back at that

She has no idea what she is

And that's fine

She needs space to figure it out

But no one

Especially not some rando internet freak

Needs to tell her what she is

He doesn't talk to her anymore

I didn't tell her mom

But he's gone